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My son is out of his league
Got a problem? Let that’s life! readers help! Here’s what they had to say about this week’s dilemma
He’s still your son
Let it go and enjoy the wedding. You can’t change things and he will always be your son.
Don’t make him choose
As the groom’s mother, you’re only responsible for the rehearsal dinner. Please don’t make your son choose between you and his bride!
It’s about love
People today care more about love than social status. Perhaps her family do look down on you, but he’s marrying her, not her family. It sounds like you love your son a lot, so rather than thinking of him as punching above his weight, think of him as deserving of love. Getting married won’t make him disappear, but not trusting him might.
Make her welcome
If they don’t want help maybe buy the bride something special and gift it to her. Tell her she’s welcome in the family with much love and tell your son you love him too. It’s not about money. I am sure it will be amazing.
It may not last
It’s your son’s life, let him live it. If it goes well, good. If not, then it’s a life lesson. Just enjoy the wedding.
You’re worrying before the horse has bolted, if it ever does... and
don’t put yourself down. It’s not money or status that make us good people. Hold your head high and be happy and proud of who you are.
Be thankful they care
Maybe they have spent their whole lives saving up for their daughter’s wedding. Be glad that her family care enough to make sure it will be a day to remember!
It’s hard to let go
Perhaps you are just having trouble letting go of your son. Accept his wife with love as I’m sure you only want your son’s happiness and she makes him happy. Trust his judgement. I’m sure you will grow to love her, if you give her a chance.
Change your attitude
There is nothing wrong with your son marrying the love of his life. There is everything wrong with your attitude!
I’m guessing if the roles were reversed, you’d be accusing her of being after his money! Your son will stop coming to see you if your attitude doesn’t change. Put on a smile and dance at your son’s wedding.
Money isn’t important
I know because of the job you do that you are special. People are all equal. Don’t look down on yourself. Money isn’t who we are. If your son fell in love, this girl must have that special something.