Bridging the generation gap
It is 2021!
If this man loves you and makes you happy and feel safe, then I don’t think your parents should object. It’s the 21st century. Everyone has the right to live their best life. If this man is a part of that life for you, go for it!
Narelle Dunn
See it their way
Look at it from your parents’ point of view. Why is he divorced? Did he rush into that marriage? If you’ve only known him for a short while, get to know him first.
Karen Dee
Issue an ultimatum
Ask your parents ‘would you like me to live in sin with the man I love or would you rather we marry? There is no other choice.’
Sue Kettlewell
It’s your future
Don’t put your plans on hold – it’s your love, your life and your future. If he makes you happy and treats you right, then I’m sure your parents will see that and come around.
Sandi Michelle
Find a safe place
Can you get them together with your fiancé in a neutral place? But don’t make your parents feel ambushed. Hopefully they’ll come around, but if not, you need to make your own decisions.
Judith Gary
They’re your parents
While it is your right to be happy, your mum and dad are part of your journey. At least listen to their concerns and explain to them you love this man and will marry him, but would love their blessing.
Josie Earles
No room for regrets
You get one life to live. You need to do what makes you happy. This could otherwise be a missed opportunity you’ll forever regret.
Chelsea Robinson
No-one else’s concern
It’s no concern of anyone else’s if he’s divorced. That’s an archaic mindset. Be happy.
Rebecca Welsh
Postpone the wedding
Listen to your parents’ concerns and talk to them as openly as you can. If you can postpone the wedding even a little while out of respect for them, they may be more likely to come around.
Iris Pearce
Family come around
My parents had this problem over 50 years ago. My dad’s first wife left and his family didn’t want him to marry my mum. Well I’m glad they didn’t listen and got married, or I wouldn’t be here. Dad’s family did come around, but if they didn’t, that’d be their problem.
Kathryn Gurr
We learn from mistakes
Your parents are entitled to their beliefs, but you should make your own choices.
They say we learn from our mistakes and your fiancé, who is divorced, will carry the burden of that forever. But he, too, has a right to be happy.
Judith Lunn
Be happy
If you’re both on the same wavelength, that’s what matters. Your parents will come around once they realise you’re happy.
Sarah Jensen