Q My 22-year-old niece has moved in with us for a few weeks. She won’t lift a finger to help and now wants a girl pal to come for a weekend stay. I’m tempted to say ‘no’. Should I? RT, Fullarton A Wow, she’s got you over a barrel. It’s your house, you rule the roost. You’ve presumably known her since she was in nappies, so you can talk plainly. I don’t think it’s surprising she’s not putting her hand up to clean the skirting boards. At 22, she’s probably got other things on her mind. But if you let her wallow in front of the TV watching True Blood, quietly gritting your teeth, then she’s going to think the pad comes with in-house amenities provided. If you want her to help, pretend she’s back in nappies and spell it out on flash cards. “Do you mind washing the Wedgwood?” etc. As for her “pal’’, that’s asking too much. You’ll end up running a boarding house for wayward 22-year-old girls. You should be straight-up with your niece, but not be uncool. Tell her there are simply enough freeloaders for one house and forward her links to alternative accommodation.