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QMy girl­friend likes to tell her girl pals some of our se­crets and I don’t like it. Should I be able to gag her from dis­cussing our pri­vate do­ings? CD, Toorak Gar­dens

AA gag, as you sug­gest, would be prac­ti­cal and ef­fec­tive, how­ever, the courts tend to frown upon that sort of thing nowa­days. Trust, your part­ner will tell you, is an es­sen­tial in­gre­di­ent in any re­la­tion­ship. But some will then hap­pily tell their pals about how your flat-screen TV is a “home of­fice de­duc­tion”, and blow-by-blow ac­counts of your bed­room ac­tiv­i­ties (pun in­tended). What th­ese peo­ple seem to mean is their abil­ity to trust you is es­sen­tial for their peace of mind. Now, a so-called “good” or “qual­i­fied” ad­vice colum­nist would no doubt ad­vise you to be hon­est with her about your feel­ings about this be­trayal of the sa­cred bonds of in­ti­macy. But hey, then she might tell her friends you’re a whing­ing Mummy’s boy. So maybe just feed her tall sto­ries in the hope she’ll get found out and os­tracised by her friends for telling fibs. That’s the ma­ture thing to do. Send your ques­tions to saweek­[email protected] Touch the sto­ries that touch you. Get our iPad app in the itunes store. ade­laide­

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