Be careful what you wish for, Michelle
“If you want it, you can have it.” This sort of positive mantra from Michelle Bridges has inspired thousands of men and women to get fit and healthy.
But the Michelle Bridges story also offers something of a cautionary tale. Sure, you can have whatever you want; but sometimes there is a high price to be paid.
Bridges is finding this out the hard way right now, after announcing on the front cover of she is having a baby with her partner Steve “The Commando” Willis, pictured above. It’s a mag she has turned to repeatedly over the years to share details of her loves, regrets, triumphs and heartaches.
Like any other woman, Bridges has every right to be happy about being pregnant at 44. But did she need to announce it on the cover of a tabloid magazine in breathless lurid detail?
One minute she’s complaining about the paparazzi, and the other she’s giving step-by-step accounts of how she broke the good news to Willis while he was sitting working at the computer.
Caution is warranted because Willis has two young children by his former partner, and one from another relationship before that.
The youngest of Willis’s children was just 19 months old when he and his previous partner separated around three years ago. Despite the passing of time, relations are still pretty frosty between his ex and Bridges.
So why would Bridges and Willis inflame the situation by appearing on the cover of trumpeting their love and happiness? All it did was inspire Willis’s ex — who’s known by her first name Froso — to return serve in rival publication
It’s not a good look and the children deserve better from all of them. It seems I am not the only one to feel this way. While most of the messages on Bridges’ Facebook page this week were positive, some were downright nasty. “I used to love these 2 but after what they did it makes me sick looking at them! I feel sorry for his wife and children that he deserted!,” wrote one.
Clearly, Willis wasn’t happy with Froso; otherwise he wouldn’t have left her for Bridges. He’s a grown man who has every right to seek happiness in a new relationship. However, the timing of the new relationship and the way it started is clearly an ongoing issue for Froso. For instance, she claims she only learned there was something going on when Willis didn’t come home after a wrap party for
This is why it would have been smarter for Willis and Bridges to be a little more low-key about their baby news.
In any case, Bridges has nothing to prove. She worked her way on to the Forbes Rich List for women through her phenomenally successful 12 Week Body Transformation. Throw in TV payments, book deals and a series of lucrative endorsements, and you have a pretty impressive career. So why talk endlessly about her private life in the tabloids?
I understand that on one level it’s smart business. These days, entrepreneurs like Bridges are not just selling products like vitamins and fitness programs, they’re selling themselves and their image.
Such stories keep people like her in the spotlight and tales of heartache often endear them to their customers.
But it doesn’t always work out so well for others — like Willis’s children and former partner — who are not trapped in the celebrity vortex.
Things didn’t improve this week when Bridges suggested her “good health” was the key to her falling pregnant naturally at 44.
There was a social media outcry, and doctors hurried to assure women although good health is important, it’s by no means as important as age.
You see, a woman’s eggs age at the same rate regardless of how many sit-ups she can do. It’s another reminder of the importance of Bridges taking care over what she says in public.
In the end, I am sure Bridges will go on to have a baby who will be much loved, but she mustn’t forget the feelings and needs of the other children in this relationship. She also needs to ensure her desire to cash in on her private life doesn’t wreck the lives of people who don’t have on speed dial.
No doubt she will learn in time that just because you want something, it doesn’t mean you should always have it. Blog with Susie at susieobrien.com.au, Facebook.com/NewswithSuse and follow her on Twitter @susieob