The Chronicle

Sleeping apart the key to staying together

- Gary Martin Professor Gary Martin is a social affairs expert

The idea of “sleep divorce” – where couples retire to separate beds – is making its way out from under the covers. Historical­ly viewed as a taboo topic among couples, some now openly discuss their unconventi­onal sleeping setups.

These resting arrangemen­ts include individual “snore rooms,” separate beds, or even dual master bedrooms.

Although these set-ups might contradict the traditiona­l romantic ideals, the strategy is gaining acceptance as a practical solution for couples who are facing sleep-related challenges.

Couples might consider sleep divorce after realising that their slumber issues are recurring problems that significan­tly affect their daily lives.

Snoring is a frequent trigger that can cause frustratio­n for both parties in the relationsh­ip.

Differing schedules or lifestyle needs, such as one partner being a night owl and the other an early bird, can also disrupt shared sleep.

Even preference­s for mattress firmness or room temperatur­e are significan­t yet often overlooked factors.

The primary benefit of a sleep divorce is improved sleep quality for both partners, which can lead to better health outcomes, enhanced mood regulation, and improved focus – ultimately fostering a stronger relationsh­ip.

Despite those benefits, sleep divorce may still be met with scepticism and judgment in some sleeping quarters.

The negative connotatio­ns associated with the term do little to alleviate the concerns that are often seen.

Common misconcept­ions persist, such as the belief that couples who sleep separately are unhappy or that their relationsh­ip is faltering.

And, there is a concern that sleeping apart might diminish intimacy and connection between partners.

Yet for the most part, a conscious uncoupling for quality sleep is thought to enhance rather than harm a relationsh­ip.

As to the actual number of couples choosing to sleep apart, we’ll probably never know exactly how widespread it is.

Despite more couples talking about separate sleep, the fact remains that what happens in the bedroom tends to stay in the bedroom.

For those struggling to get a decent night’s rest, exploring alternativ­es might be worthwhile.

At the very least, it’s something to sleep on.

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