A bit of a ban­ter or joke doesn't go astray!

The Daily Telegraph (Sydney) - Best Weekend - - FRONT PAGE -

Chris Gaw­idziel, 36, and his wife Kate had their first child Alex in Fe­bru­ary. The birth of the lit­tle boy so­lid­i­fied an al­ready strong fam­ily re­la­tion­ship. He says: “KATE in­tro­duced me to her par­ents three months af­ter we started dat­ing. Her par­ents and I got on from day one and clicked re­ally well. I think a huge helper was the fact we in­stantly dis­cov­ered we had a lot of the same in­ter­ests, like footy and trav­el­ling, and her dad and I have the same sense of hu­mour. “They were re­ally wel­com­ing, and were al­ways ask­ing about me and took an in­ter­est not just in me and my re­la­tion­ship with Kate, but also in my own life and what I’d been up to. It al­lowed me to be my­self, and I think that is a mis­take that some peo­ple make when it comes to in-laws. I never tried to be some­one I wasn’t, and I was never afraid to be my­self around them. I was never fake and I think they saw that and ap­pre­ci­ated it. “They’ve also been great by in­clud­ing me as part of the fam­ily. We of­ten travel to­gether, and have vis­ited their side of the fam­ily in Italy to­gether, which re­ally makes me feel like I’m part of it all. “Es­pe­cially now, with the new bub, they are con­stantly around and are very hands-on with him. When Kate and I need some cou­ple time, they are so help­ful and al­ways putting their hands up to baby babysit. “I th think a lot of the time guys can be quite ego­tis ego­tis­ti­cal and have that male per­sona of not wan want­ing as­sis­tance. I think there’s that pre pre­con­cep­tion of men not want­ing the in in-laws hang­ing around, and also that i idea of the guy tak­ing away their daugh­ter. This at­ti­tude can re­ally af­fect the re­la­tion­ship be­tween you and your part­ner’s par­ents. “My ad­vice would be to just get to know your in-laws. Find out who they are and make the ef­fort to un­der­stand their per­son­al­i­ties. “I also think com­mu­ni­ca­tion is the ke key to a good, pos­i­tive re­la­tion­ship. We all have a very re­spect­ful re­la­tion­ship and no o one is ever rude, mean or nasty, but at the sa same time I think trad­ing a bit of ban­ter or a joke here and there doesn’t go astray.”

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