Technology makes it easier to connect
Shaw adds there is a great benefit for older people embracing technology for dating, especially sole parents who may not have the time or money to conduct a relationship in the old-fashioned way, when wining and dining was the acceptable format.
Manning says changes in attitudes between men and women have made it difficult for men to know what role they should play in a relationship. “It’s not always clear what women want when it comes to romantic gestures these days,” Manning says. “Rules like ‘ladies first’ were common in the 1950s but the lines are blurred now and some women don’t appreciate what they may consider to be outdated gestures. In the past there was more structure to dating, but now a lot of that has been chucked out. What is important, then, is to establish the things that are important to your partner; they may care less about having the door opened for them but really appreciate having text messages acknowledged.” e . IT was the simple but very telling move to unfollow Marko Zitko on social media that ultimately brought him and Vishaya Pracy together. Like true Millennials, the pair, who met when they worked together at a pizza shop, conducted most of their conversations, and a little flirting, through social media for two years before dating. “After I left the pizza shop I noticed she unfollowed me on Snapchat, Instagram and Facebook,” 21-year-old Zitko, a PR account coordinator says. “I found out she took something I said out of context, so I texted her to ask why she unfollowed me and it sparked from there. “That move definitely caught my attention, if it didn’t happen I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have got together.” Zitko says communicating via technology has helped his relationship with the 19-year-old university student blossom, particularly when busy schedules keep them apart. “Our lifestyles are pretty different, I work full-time and she’s at uni, so being able to use technology to chat when we can has really helped our relationship,” he says. “Texting can also give you the platform to say the right thing and really think about what message you want to get across. “It definitely makes it easier to connect, schedule places to meet and keep in touch when you’re busy.” However, Zitk Zitko says he draws the line at using technolo technology to share tender moments together. “Say “Saying ‘I love you,’ especially for the fi first time, and breaking up sho should be traditional and done fa face-to-face,” he says. “These are two tender m moments in a relationship and should be expressed only when you’re together. “Also, I do offer her my jacket if it’s cold, hold the door open for her, pick her up, drop h her off and wait to see she got in the door. But I see these thin things as a courtesy, not a roma romantic gesture.”