And mother­ing at any age — chal­leng­ing, re­ward­ing, mirac­u­lous.

The Sunday Telegraph (Sydney) - - NEWS -

A first-time mum at 50. A cou­ple whose strug­gle to con­ceive even­tu­ally re­sulted in triplets. A sin­gle­ton who turned to IVF af­ter giv­ing up find­ing Mr Right. And an early birth that left one mum watch­ing her baby’s life swing in the bal­ance. The path to moth­er­hood is not al­ways straight­for­ward and for some the jour­ney is filled with un­cer­tainty. To cel­e­brate Mother’s Day we share the amaz­ing sto­ries of a group of mums who achieved their dreams against the odds. Jane Hansen re­ports.

I COULDN'T NOT BE A MUM

Belinda Grim­mond has al­ways loved chil­dren. She has made them her ca­reer as an early child­hood ed­u­ca­tion and has wanted to be a mother ever since she was a lit­tle girl. But the right man just never showed up.

Last year, at 37, she de­cided she could no longer wait and sourced a sperm donor through IVF Aus­tralia.

Noah was born four weeks ago.

“I have been sin­gle for eight years and I’ve been on dates but it is a mine­field,” she said.

“Peo­ple lie about who they are, they only want one thing and no one wants to be tied down. I even dated a few older men think­ing they’d be more ma­ture, but they were the same so I lost faith.“

Go­ing it alone was not what Ms Grim­mond planned, but it was her only op­tion as her body clock ticked.

“It may be self­ish of me but I can’t not be a mum. Chil­dren mean ev­ery­thing to me, from an early age I al­ways wanted to be a mother. But at age 37, I thought I’m not wait­ing any longer, so I de­cided to go down the solo par­ent path,” she said.

Her friend Olympian Jana Pittman en­cour­aged her to do so. Jana had two of her three chil­dren with a sperm donor.

“She has helped me in my jour­ney to be­come a solo mum,” she said. The de­ci­sion came with some grief. “At the an­te­na­tal classes I’d see all the cou­ples, my mum was there for me, she is my rock, but still, you don’t have that part­ner and the ex­cite­ment in that re­spect so there is a bit of grief there,” she said.

Such wor­ries dis­ap­peared when she saw her young son how­ever.

“He is gor­geous and per­fect in ev­ery way and he has ful­filled ev­ery­thing and given me a pur­pose. My life wasn’t com­plete with­out him,” she said.

Belinda, from Toongabbi, is now plan­ning to add to her fam­ily.

“I’ll def­i­nitely have an­other one, whether my knight in shin­ing ar­mour will come along I don’t know, but I can use the same sperm donor. Noth­ing beats moth­er­hood,” she said.

Belinda and four-week-old son Noah, who is “per­fect in ev­ery way”, she says. Pic­ture: Sam Rut­tyn

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