And mothering at any age — challenging, rewarding, miraculous.
A first-time mum at 50. A couple whose struggle to conceive eventually resulted in triplets. A singleton who turned to IVF after giving up finding Mr Right. And an early birth that left one mum watching her baby’s life swing in the balance. The path to motherhood is not always straightforward and for some the journey is filled with uncertainty. To celebrate Mother’s Day we share the amazing stories of a group of mums who achieved their dreams against the odds. Jane Hansen reports.
I COULDN'T NOT BE A MUM
Belinda Grimmond has always loved children. She has made them her career as an early childhood education and has wanted to be a mother ever since she was a little girl. But the right man just never showed up.
Last year, at 37, she decided she could no longer wait and sourced a sperm donor through IVF Australia.
Noah was born four weeks ago.
“I have been single for eight years and I’ve been on dates but it is a minefield,” she said.
“People lie about who they are, they only want one thing and no one wants to be tied down. I even dated a few older men thinking they’d be more mature, but they were the same so I lost faith.“
Going it alone was not what Ms Grimmond planned, but it was her only option as her body clock ticked.
“It may be selfish of me but I can’t not be a mum. Children mean everything to me, from an early age I always wanted to be a mother. But at age 37, I thought I’m not waiting any longer, so I decided to go down the solo parent path,” she said.
Her friend Olympian Jana Pittman encouraged her to do so. Jana had two of her three children with a sperm donor.
“She has helped me in my journey to become a solo mum,” she said. The decision came with some grief. “At the antenatal classes I’d see all the couples, my mum was there for me, she is my rock, but still, you don’t have that partner and the excitement in that respect so there is a bit of grief there,” she said.
Such worries disappeared when she saw her young son however.
“He is gorgeous and perfect in every way and he has fulfilled everything and given me a purpose. My life wasn’t complete without him,” she said.
Belinda, from Toongabbi, is now planning to add to her family.
“I’ll definitely have another one, whether my knight in shining armour will come along I don’t know, but I can use the same sperm donor. Nothing beats motherhood,” she said.
Belinda and four-week-old son Noah, who is “perfect in every way”, she says. Picture: Sam Ruttyn