Missy, get out while you can

The Sunday Telegraph (Sydney) - - OPINION OUR & YOURS - CLAIRE HAR­VEY

We’re fail­ing to un­der­stand one crit­i­cal thing. Salim Me­ha­jer is not a clown. He’s a crim­i­nal. CLAIRE HAR­VEY

WHAT is she think­ing? Can’t she do bet­ter? What’s with the lips? All those are rea­son­able ques­tions to ask of Salim Me­ha­jer’s new girl­friend, model Missy Tysoe. But the wave of abuse Ms Tysoe is cop­ping over her re­la­tion­ship suggests we’re fail­ing to un­der­stand one crit­i­cal thing about the ‘flam­boy­ant prop­erty de­vel­oper’ and his his­tory with women.

Salim Me­ha­jer is not a clown. He’s a crim­i­nal — some­one who has threat­ened rape and wished his ex-wife dead, who has been con­victed of in­tim­i­dat­ing his ex-wife and cheat­ing elec­toral laws, some­one who breaches the bail con­di­tions im­posed upon him (that’s why he’s back in prison) and some­one who boasts about con­nec­tions to heavy­duty bad­dies in­clud­ing bikies.

And that makes Missy Tysoe a vic­tim. Al­ready. For all her beauty and self-pro­claimed con­fi­dence, she is on the los­ing end of this re­la­tion­ship be­fore it re­ally be­gins.

A man who records a video and then sends it to his wife, in which he threat­ens to rape her mother and wishes her dead?

That man doesn’t de­serve the love of a wo­man like Ms Tysoe. That man doesn’t change.

“Aysha, you’ve got five min­utes to give me a call,” Mr Me­ha­jer says in that hor­rific video, first pub­lished by A Cur­rent Af­fair.

“If you don’t call me in five min­utes, I’m go­ing to rape your mum, your mum and your f---ing dad. Call me now”. Later, he adds: “Aysha, I hope you die you slut.”

It is Me­ha­jer’s van­ity and hubris that brings him un­done.

Most of Aus­tralia would never have heard of him — and he’d still be tak­ing care of busi­ness as the deputy mayor of Auburn — if he hadn’t staged that bom­bas­tic 2015 wed­ding.

In our Sun­day Tele­graph news­room that day, we got a cou­ple of tips that “some­thing big” was hap­pen­ing in a sub­ur­ban street — and when our team ar­rived on the scene, they were flab­ber­gasted to see he­li­copters, bikies on mo­tor­cy­cles, a fleet of lux­ury cars — all to cel­e­brate the wed­ding of some­one I, at least, had never heard of, em­brac­ing a bride who looked more like a hostage.

The me­dia’s en­quiries be­gan with whether this mys­te­ri­ous Mr Me­ha­jer had per­mis­sion to block off his whole street for the fes­tiv­i­ties. The story has now be­come the demise of not just that ‘fairy­tale’ mar­riage, but his en­tire life.

In the syrupy videos made by Me­ha­jer and Ms Tysoe, there are chill­ing re­minders of the cutesy-pie videos he once made with his ex-wife, April Lear­month, now known as Aysha Lear­month.

It’s re­mark­able to see an adult man ca­vort like that — and even more sur­pris­ing that any wo­man would find it ap­peal­ing — but Salim never seems to have strug­gled to find girl­friends. Ms Tysoe says she was “hor­ri­fied” by that video di­rected at Aysha. ““I con­fronted him, and he said: ‘It was a few years ago and she broke my heart’,” she said.

Ms Tysoe this week re­vealed that since their re­la­tion­ship be­came public, she’s been bom­barded with vile in­sults in­clud­ing sug­ges­tions she should kill her­self and wishes for her to get cancer.

“Salim what are you do­ing Aysha was much more beau­ti­ful! She looks like a trans­gen­der man,” wrote one, ac­cord­ing to an In­sta­gram story posted by Ms Tysoe.

Ms Tysoe claims she doesn’t care. “Never judge a per­son on what you hear — but rather, how they make you feel,” she wrote on In­sta­gram. She says Me­ha­jer is “ro­man­tic” and looks for­ward to a life to­gether post-prison.

Missy Tysoe seems like a nice per­son. She’s cer­tainly han­dling the abuse bet­ter than most of us could — and she bats away in­sults about her body by can­didly ad­mit­ting she’s got fake lips and breasts.

But I hope she spends a lit­tle time away from In­sta­gram, read­ing the words of the wo­man she most re­sem­bles: Aysha Lear­month.

Po­lice had Me­ha­jer charged with breach­ing Ms Lear­month’s ap­pre­hended vi­o­lence or­der by send­ing her 400 so­cial me­dia mes­sages af­ter she left him and when she was in hid­ing from him, fear­ful of vi­o­lence. He was ul­ti­mately con­victed of send­ing an In­sta­gram mes­sage that read: “Aysha, I hope this mes­sage finds you well. I mean it from the bot­tom of my heart. Con­sider it a friendly con­grat­u­la­tions on your new busi­ness.”

Me­ha­jer’s bar­ris­ter said that was a warm and friendly mes­sage about her new salon. Ms Lear­month said it was a de­lib­er­ate at­tempt to ter­rify her.

It worked. “Salim tends to find out what I’m up to,” she said. Let that be a warn­ing to you, Missy.

Missy Tysoe and Salim Me­ha­jer.

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