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Keys to married couples managing their money successfully
NOTHING can tear a relationship apart more than financial issues. It can set couples against each other and fester into something incredibly destructive.
We’ve been married almost 39 years and, at different times, endured significant financial hardship. We’ve found that it is so much easier to cope with these strains if you have a relationship built on strong financial foundations and values.
We’ve found this is how successful married couples manage their money: THEY HAVE NO MONEY SECRETS As soon as a couple is in a committed relationship they will declare their entire financial world to each other. That means coming clean about their salaries, credit card debt, university debt, credit score, betting accounts and anything else that might affect their financial future as a couple.
It can be a tough discussion to confess all your money secrets but it is crucial to your future as a couple. THEY TALK A LOT ABOUT MONEY It doesn’t matter so much what couples do with their cash, but that they make decisions together and respect each other’s opinions.
We recommend you set aside at least 15 minutes a month to just talk about your money. Not paying bills or checking credit card statements, but talking about the parameters of managing your finances.
Be open and be honest and don’t be afraid to disagree. THEY SET SPECIFIC GOALS Successful couples come up with goals together and check in frequently to make sure they’re on the same page – as part of their 15 minute catchups. They break them down to short, medium and long- term goals and constantly refine them. Successful couples talk about where every dollar is being spent and reset their goals regularly. THEY DIVIDE UP RESPONSIBILITIES One partner should never have sole responsibility for a couple’s finances. That is a recipe for relationship disaster, which can lead to financial infidelity and abuse of power.
Whether it’s opening joint accounts, paying the rent or mortgage, the power bill, superannuation contributions or other expenses, it’s the responsibility of both parties. Successful couples don’t assume their partner will take care of certain aspects, they work together to div vy up financial responsibilities. THEY PROTECT WHAT THEY HAVE When couples bind their lives together, it doesn’t just create an emotional bond, but a financial one as well.
If something were to happen to either spouse, it’s better to be safe than sorry and know the affect your financial plans is nothing to get annoyed about. THEY LIVE WITHIN THEIR MEANS Spend less than you think that you need to, or earn. It’s simple.
It all starts with that age- old family budget which tracks expenses and income to make sure the former doesn’t exceed the latter. Then it’s the personal discipline to stick with it.
The reward is having money left over to achieve a goal like investing or taking that dream holiday. THEY SET STRONG GROUND RULES Your spending habits are no longer purely your own; they affect someone else as well. That’s why it’s crucial to decide how and when you’ll spend, and create a set of ground rules for handling money that works for both you and your partner. Don’t forget every relationship needs a bit of individual independence to flourish . . . and that includes money. THEY HAVE FUN Saving or investing just for the sake of making more money is boring. Life is for living and a good financial relationship will help you to live better . . . and have fun.
Money can be a point of contention, but successful couples don’t let it run their relationship. They don’t make it the ultimate goal, they use it to fuel other goals.