SID THE PSYCHIASIST
WE CAN'T VOUCH FOR HIS QUALIFICATIONS BUT HIS ADVICE IS PRICELESS
Dear S yd, I’ m being cyber bullied at school. I don’ t really want to tell my principle or parents, as I’ m certain that will only make it worse. Charlie, Avalon, aged 15 In the old days the bullying at my beach came as tying young groms to a pole, naked, and leaving them in the sun for hours. If that sounds sadistic, and humiliating, it was, but I fear it is nothing on the ongoing stress you feel in the modern world. I’m afraid my first advice is that you need to tell an adult you trust. That takes bravery and courage, but in these situations you need people with power to have your back. If you are not ready for that just yet, simply disengage. Up your privacy settings, block the harassers and report the abuse to the social media platform. All of those can be done anonymously. Alternatively log off completely. I know it’s a big part of our world, but you can always fire up your social media channels later on, once the pathetic bullies have turned their attention elsewhere. Use that time offline to go surfing more than ever, and engage with the ocean and the people in it. People can’t harass you in the tube, Charlie. I can’ t stop paddling on the inside at my homebreak. I’ ve been surfing there for over 20 years, but recently it’ s changed so much. I don’ t seem to recognise hardly anyone in the line up, the old crew has bailed, and so fuck it, I try and getanywaveIwant. Trev,BarBeach Well, Trev, as much I as can empathise with you as a victim of coastal gentrification, in the long run your attitude needs to change if you want to enjoy surfing at your local. Progress, like shit, happens. You might be better off learning about your new community. They were drawn there probably for the same reasons as you. Try to find some common ground, forge new surfing and community friendships and instead of being known as “That cunt Trev”, you could be part of a new, thriving, lineup, where your history is respected and paddling on the inside won’t be needed. Much. I am so afraid of big waves, I literally piss my pants every time I paddle out when the surf is over four foot. I want to surf bigger waves, I just can’t. It’s a mental thing. Kenny Standon, Bungwahl There’s a psychological theory that says when you avoid something that scares you, you tend to experience a sense of failure. Every time you avoid a feared object or situation, your anxiety gains strength while you lose some. So, avoiding anxiety maintains and magnifies it. A classic lose, lose. The answer? Exposure. Exposure is by far the most potent medicine known to psychology. Putting it simply; you have to keep paddling out. The anxiety will lessen, your fear will drop. In just under 1000 years, you will be surfing Waimea. Hey Syd, I’d like to think I’m pretty comfortable talking to girls, probably because I have three sisters. However I seem to make loads of friends that are girls, but can’t make any of them girlfriends. It’s reached the point where my mates now call me Diamonds. Kane, Jan Juc Your mates are hilarious, if not particularly helpful. I would say there is worse places to be then the friend zone, like inside Gnaraloo at low tide for example. For inside the friend zone you can gather intelligence that few of your mates outside the zone will ever come across. You have a VIP all access pass to the female psych. On the flipside if you have romantic feelings for someone in the friend zone, you can’t stay there forever. Use that intel and your much boasted communication skills to let your friend know how you feel. At best you gain a girlfriend, and if you be honest, you shouldn’t lose a friend. Diamonds need not be forever.
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