Think big in 2019

Warwick Daily News - South West Queensland Rural Weekly - - Bush Banter - DEN­NIS J HOIBERG The Re­silience Whis­perer

HOW big is your world? If it isn’t at all, may I sug­gest for 2019 that you live your life as large as pos­si­ble.

Just prior to Christ­mas on the other side of the world, I was hav­ing a dis­cus­sion with a young cou­ple who were like any young cou­ple – full of am­bi­tion, hopes and dreams.

But they had hit a hur­dle that was threat­en­ing to suck them of en­ergy. As an out­sider look­ing in, the is­sue seemed eas­ily re­solv­able, but they had fallen for the old trick that gets us ev­ery time – they had gone small. They were con­sumed by the prob­lem and had re­treated into them­selves. They had stopped fol­low­ing the process of life, which in­evitably leads to is­sues get­ting out of per­spec­tive, tak­ing away the abil­ity to deal with our world. They had gone small!

Af­ter work­ing with in­di­vid­u­als and com­mu­ni­ties in a num­ber of coun­tries now, I have no­ticed those peo­ple who are most “well” have large worlds – their net­works and in­ter­ac­tions are broad and multi-faceted.

Ever notice that when things aren’t go­ing your way and the chal­lenges in your life seem to be build­ing up, you go “small”? You con­cen­trate on the is­sue at hand and lose per­spec­tive on the big­ger pic­ture. I think this is par­tic­u­larly ev­i­dent in re­gional and ru­ral com­mu­ni­ties (al­though not ex­clu­sive to them) where iso­la­tion, due to dis­tance or weather (colder cli­mates), is a real fac­tor.

The prob­lem with liv­ing in a “small world” is that the smaller the world, the big­ger the prob­lem. Even the lit­tle chal­lenges be­come larger and take away our en­er­gies, our joys and our fo­cus.

How­ever, when liv­ing in a “large” world, those small is­sues are ex­actly that – small. They can be put in per­spec­tive as we re­alise that other peo­ple may share the same prob­lem and might even be able to as­sist in re­solv­ing the is­sue,

So how do you make your world “large”? The sim­ple an­swer is to reach out, in­ter­act, give, ask for help and when it is of­fered, ac­cept it.

Who are you in­ter­act­ing with? It can be both phys­i­cally and “vir­tu­ally”. Tech­nol­ogy now ex­ists through so­cial me­dia and the world wide web for you to in­ter­act with any­one, any­where. In­ter­act with as many groups and peo­ple as pos­si­ble as this both ex­poses you to and al­lows you to form dif­fer­ent per­spec­tives and ex­pe­ri­ences.

Whose voice and wis­dom are you lis­ten­ing to? Who do you go to for a chat or ad­vice about your is­sues and world?

Ev­ery­one has wis­dom built through their ex­pe­ri­ences, wins and losses. Seek out other peo­ple’s sto­ries as a way of re­defin­ing your own and learn from other peo­ple’s lessons.

What are you do­ing to de­velop your­self at a per­sonal or pro­fes­sional level? Who and what are you read­ing?

What new skills or per­spec­tives are you de­vel­op­ing from these ac­tiv­i­ties? It is never too late to learn a new skill or to chal­lenge your own or other peo­ple’s per­spec­tive.

What are you giv­ing to your world? Life is about giv­ing rather than tak­ing and one of my lessons is that the more you give, the more you get – so you can never give enough!

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