SURE-FIRE CONVERSATION STARTERS
People management specialist KAREN GATELY gives her tips on mastering small talk when you’re feeling shy
Really push yourself
It tends to be mind over matter for people who struggle to chat. “Avoid wallowing in thoughts of being inadequate or ill-prepared. Recognise when your fears are holding you back from stepping forward confidently,” Karen says.
Don’t delay!
You might not want to dive into the deep end, but when it comes to making conversation, you’re going to have to! “Standing around awkwardly trying to figure out who to talk to is only likely to fuel anxiety,” Karen says. “Decide who you will connect with and approach them without hesitation.”
Ask detailed questions
Karen says turning the focus on the other person can make you feel more comfortable. She advises asking questions that can’t be answered with a “yes” or “no” but need explanation.
Find common ground
Kids, food, hobbies, sports... there are many things you may have in common. “Conversation is most likely to flow when both parties have a keen interest in the topic at hand,” Karen adds. “Look for things you both enjoy or have experienced.”