SAMI LUKIS’ GUIDE TO DATING IN YOUR 40s

Self-confessed serial dater Sami Lukis has been hunting for “Mr Perfect” for the best part of three decades. Now in her 40s, the TV star gives us an insight into what she’s learned along the way.

1 Tinder has changed everything on the dating scene. Pre-tinder, at least some random guy would occasionally pay me some attention or throw me some corny pick up-line when I was out at the pub with friends. Now they don’t even bother, because they’ve already got their Tinder dates lined up for later! 2 A “coffee date” always works best for a first date. If it’s terrible, you can escape easily and swiftly. If it goes well, you’ll leave with that wonderfully excited feeling of anticipation for your next date. 3 I don’t believe in love at first s sight. I’ve realised it’s impossible to fall in love w with someone until you know them, warts and all. Most men are pretty good at presenting the “best” version o of themselves for about three months. It’s only then you s start to uncover the real him. 4 My unfortunate dating experiences have s shown me how resilient I am. It would be lovely to meet my Mr Happily Ever After, but I’m proud I’ve been able to create an enjoyable, valuable and meaningful life for myself without a ring on my finger. 5 Don’t take yourself or your dating experiences too seriously. Have a good friend you can share all the laughs with... and please start taking notes after every bad date – and send them all to me for book number two! ROMANTICALLY CHALLENGED by Sami Lukis (Penguin Random House, $32.99) is out now.