KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE – AFTER KIDS!

Becoming parents doesn’t mean your relationship has to suffer, according to DR NIKKI GOLDSTEIN

THINK QUALITY, NOT QUANTITY

Your children are your priority, but it’s still important to make special times for you and your partner to connect. However, make sure these times really count.

DON’T EXPECT PERFECTION

Tackle parenthood as a team and let mistakes help you reconnect as partners. It’s important to lean on each other when you feel things aren’t perfect.

PRIORITISE DATE NIGHT

You don’t have to leave the house – just be creative! Put the kids to bed and have a romantic dinner in the living room, turn off the TV and light some candles. Maybe even take a romantic shower together.

SUPPORT EACH OTHER

This is not a time for who did what, and who is doing more chores than the other. Resentment can be the one thing to destroy a relationship. Instead, ask yourself, ‘What can I do for the other person to make them happy or make their life easier?’

GET CREATIVE IN THE BEDROOM

Many people fear sex will decrease or even stop after children. It might not be as easy, but it’s still important to show love physically. Make time to be free together. Put down the laptop and have some together time before you go to sleep.