Goldie & Kurt 50 years

They haven’t walked down the aisle, but they keep say­ing ‘I do’ to lov­ing each other

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They’re not just Hol­ly­wood’s hap­pi­est cou­ple, they have a re­la­tion­ship most peo­ple long for – one that’s hon­est, lov­ing and true.

And de­spite hav­ing never tied the knot, 35 years on Goldie Hawn and Kurt Rus­sell still swoon over each other like lovesick teens.

They’ve un­doubt­edly stood the test of time – it’s been an in­cred­i­ble five decades since the rock-solid love­birds first met.

Now, as they cel­e­brate 35 years of cou­ple­dom, Woman’s Day can re­veal the se­crets to the duo’s re­la­tion­ship suc­cess.

RO­MANCE IN THE AIR

Af­ter they first laid eyes on each other – on the set of The One And Only, Gen­uine, Orig­i­nal Fam­ily Band in 1968 – it was an­other 15 years be­fore Goldie and Kurt be­came ro­man­ti­cally in­volved.

Be­fore then, Goldie mar­ried West Side Story ac­tor and dancer Gus Triko­nis in 1969 but they sep­a­rated af­ter four years.

When Kurt, 67, and Goldie, 72, even­tu­ally worked to­gether again, the bub­bly blonde had been di­vorced twice and had two chil­dren, son Oliver and daugh­ter Kate, with her sec­ond hus­band, mu­si­cian Bill Hud­son.

It was Fe­bru­ary 1983, when they starred to­gether in the comedy film Swing Shift that their pro­fes­sional re­la­tion­ship be­came per­sonal.

“He was so good-look­ing. I had no pre­tence about him,” Goldie says of Kurt. “I could tell right away he wasn’t a wom­an­iser.”

The ac­tress fell for Kurt when she saw what a fam­ily man he was. “What got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them,” she said. “He was amaz­ing with them, such a nat­u­ral.”

HAPPY FAM­I­LIES

At the time, Oliver and Kate were six and three, and Kurt treated them like his very own, be­com­ing a lov­ing fa­ther fig­ure in their lives.

Come their 10th anniversary, when the cou­ple, who also share 32-year-old son Wy­att, asked their brood if they wanted them to get mar­ried they all unan­i­mously said no.

“They loved it – ev­ery­thing was per­fect the way it [was],” Goldie re­vealed of their de­ci­sion not to marry.

Now, the Over­board stars even be­lieve ty­ing the knot could have ru­ined their ro­mance! “I’d have been long di­vorced if I’d been mar­ried,” says Goldie.

“Mar­riage is an in­ter­est­ing, psy­cho­log­i­cal thing. If you need to feel bound to some­one, then it’s im­por­tant to be mar­ried.

“If you have in­de­pen­dence, if you have enough money and enough sense of in­de­pen­dence and you like your in­de­pen­dence, there’s some­thing psy­cho­log­i­cal about not be­ing mar­ried be­cause it gives you the free­dom to make de­ci­sions one way or the other. So, for me, I chose to stay, Kurt chose to stay.”

While their un­con­ven­tional re­la­tion­ship may have raised some eye­brows over the years, they’ve clearly proved naysay­ers wrong.

And one thing that’s helped the cou­ple keep the spark alive is a healthy sex life.

“I think sex is very im­por­tant in a re­la­tion­ship and a longterm re­la­tion­ship ac­tu­ally suf­fers be­cause peo­ple aren’t play­ing to­gether any­more,” Goldie has said.

And her words of ad­vice? Cou­ples should make their own rules when it comes to

‘I would have been long di­vorced if I’d been mar­ried’

monogamy, ad­mit­ting that she doesn’t mind if Kurt looks at other women.

“We’re hu­man be­ings. There is, I guess, elas­tic­ity to the re­la­tion­ship,” she says. “Oth­er­wise it’s go­ing to break, just like a rub­ber band.”

THE SE­CRET

De­spite all her the­o­ries about their re­la­tion­ship, Goldie says find­ing her per­fect match has been the se­cret to suc­cess.

“It’s about com­pat­i­bil­ity and com­mu­ni­ca­tion. And you both need to want it to work. If one per­son doesn’t want it to work, it isn’t go­ing to work. In­ten­tion is the key.

“It’s also about not los­ing your­self in each other,” she adds. “Be­ing to­gether, two pil­lars hold­ing up the house and the roof, and be­ing dif­fer­ent, not hav­ing to agree on ev­ery­thing, learn­ing how to deal with not agree­ing.”

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