‘WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS TOGETHER’
New nurse Elodie is grateful for her colleague’s support during the pandemic
When Elodie Bailey began nursing in early 2020 she had no idea she’d soon be working in a pandemic.
But for the new graduate, working on Melbourne’s COVID-19 wards alongside more experienced colleagues made her challenging new job less daunting.
One co-worker, registered nurse Stephanie Molinaro, became a good friend and Elodie, 23, credits her for helping her through the toughest days. “Seeing Stephanie’s warm eyes and hearing a friendly voice made the hard days easier,” she says.
“She’d regularly check in and ask how I was going. I can’t say ‘thank you’ enough.”
Unable to see each other’s faces through the layers of personal protective equipment, the nurses formed a strong friendship as they worked across several hospitals on wards treating COVID-19.
Elodie was often bedside as her patients took their last breath. “It was very emotionally draining. On a daily basis, families would have to watch their loved ones take their last breath via video call and I would sit there holding their hands as they passed,” she remembers.
But Stephanie, 24, was always there to support and comfort Elodie. “She helped me navigate the physical and emotional burden and she reassured me that this wasn’t what nursing was usually like.”
Stephanie also found that their friendship became a much appreciated part of her day. “Having a friend like Elodie is a blessing,” she says. “We’re able to lean on each other and lift each other up. Having people who you feel supported by in these hard moments is irreplaceable.”
As Australia finds itself under lockdown yet again, Elodie – who was working on a post-surgery ward with Stephanie – is back on the frontline. “It’s always daunting... my heart went out to all the healthcare workers when case numbers rose – stay strong!”
For healthcare workers on the frontline, life has never been so challenging. But one group of intensive care nurses wants Australia to know that looking after their critically ill COVID-19 patients is a privilege.
“We understand that COVID is scary, but we’re 100 per cent there for our patients and to make sure they get through this,” says Liverpool Hospital’s Rachael Gibson. “We’re not afraid.”
Woman’s Day recently met with the ICU nurse and her five colleagues and close friends – Jennifer Le, Radha Pala, Malita Segecic, Kayley Mclaughlin and Anne Tran – to hear how they’re coping at the epicentre of south-west Sydney’s current outbreak.
“This is such a massive once in a lifetime event,” Anne, 25, explains over a Zoom chat.
“There are always ups and downs when it comes to working in ICU and it’s not just us experiencing this, but since this whole pandemic started it has really tested everybody emotionally, mentally and physically.”
But even on their toughest days, these hardworking nurses treasure the simplest of reminders why they signed up for a career that currently involves 12-hour shifts in full PPE.
SAYING THANK YOU
“It’s those moments when a patient or a relative says, ‘Thank you.’ It takes the stress off for the rest of the day and it’s like I’ve done my job,” says Malita, 26.
Kayley explains how this often occurs for the happiest of reasons. “People think we just see everybody on their
deathbed and it’s horrible, but in reality we see so many people leave the ICU, and we see so many people get so much better,” says the 24-year-old.
Forging connections in masks and face shields is challenging, but the women do all they can to put their patients at ease.
“All they can see is our eyes so we have little labels with our names on our heads, maybe a smiley face or something,” says Rachael, 24.
However, working in the midst of a pandemic brings with it a heartbreakingly long list of worries for the young nurses, who work in cycles on both the COVID and regular ICU wards.
“Although we’re all vaccinated, we have PPE and all the equipment, we’ve heard stories of other nurses testing positive,” says Radha, 25.
“I think one of the worst parts is going home and knowing you’ve got parents who would be at risk if they got COVID and thinking, ‘I don’t want you to come near me because I don’t know what will happen if I have it and then you get it.’”
But there is one part of their job all the nurses agree is the toughest – when they help relatives say goodbye to their loved ones via a screen.
“It doesn’t get easier,” Anne says softly. “But as a nurse, it’s one of the most gracious things we’re privileged to do.”
And when moments like these become hard to bear, the friends keep watch for each other. “They’re there when you need a hug, when your patient is doing really poorly, or you’re not having a great day,” says Kayley. “They just make work so much better.”
Adds Radha, “We always say to each other, ‘It’s OK not to be OK’.”
The group went from being co-workers to the best of friends last year, when Jennifer, 24, invited them to her birthday party when restrictions eased after the first lockdown. “We had a great time and I was like, ‘OK, that’s it, these are the girls who are going to be my work wifeys!’” she laughs. Hugs might be off the table for now, but these six have refused to let the pandemic get in the way of their friendship. They’ve swapped weekends away and nights out for group video chats with BYO cocktails anda and regularlygularly regularly send each other thoughtful gifts and care packages.
And amid these toughest of times, they do all they can to keep each other smiling.
“It can be like a therapy session with supporting each other but I think for the most part, we just have fun,” says Jennifer.
“We make light of everything, we make jokes and cheer ourselves up because we know there there’s s light at the end of this tunnel. And we know that eventually this will end.”
‘We see so many people get better’