WHEN THEY’RE NOT OK
How to help when you ask R U OK? and the answer is, ‘No, I’m not...’
Many of us aren’t aware that mental illness is Australia’s most common chronic health condition. Research by the Liptember Foundation shows that one in four women are facing a severe form of mental health disorder.
But while this may be something that many people can relate to, mental health struggles can also have a way of going unnoticed. If someone close to you is experiencing difficulties, being able to recognise the signs can place you in a better position to help.
Psychologist Luke Foster co-founded the non-profit charity LIVIN in a bid to break the stigma around mental illness. By spreading the message that “it ain’t weak to speak”, the organisation’s mission is to normalise discussions about mental health and to empower people to ask for help.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR
Luke says the signs that someone is struggling may not always be obvious to those around them.
“Warning signs can appear in all shapes and sizes, so it is important to recognise any change in behaviour, especially that which is out of character,” he explains.
Some changes to look out for could include increased alcohol and/or drug use as well as anger, aggression or irritability, social isolation, crying, declining physical health and impulsivity.
People may also be more likely to struggle during periods where they are undergoing challenging life events.
WHAT CAN I DO?
When someone is going through a tough time, it’s natural to want to help. But at the same time, many of us worry that we might end up saying the wrong thing. During these moments, one of the best things that you can do for someone is to simply lend an ear and listen to them without judgement.
“When these signs are recognised, it is important to make contact and open up the conversation, reminding yourself to keep things simple, avoid distractions and listen,” Luke explains. “Limit offering advice or solutions in the early stages. Instead, work with them to come up with solutions together.”
THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION
Exercise isn’t just great for our physical wellbeing, there is also plenty of evidence that it benefits our mental health. When we work out, our brain releases feelgood endorphins. If you exercise in a group setting (for instance, joining a walking group or signing up for a salsa class), it can also be a great opportunity to build social connections – which is another big win for our mental and emotional wellbeing.
A great way to support someone who is going through a tough time is plan a catch-up that involves some sort of physical activity. You could invite them to accompany you for a walk, buddy up with them at the gym or ask them if they’d like to join you at a yoga class.
“The research is clear that if you’re active, even just mild to moderate exercise can reduce the likelihood, onset, and impact of things like depression and anxiety,” says Luke.
For 24-hour support including advice on how to assist someone that you have concerns about, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636.