I met my partner’s parents and now he wants to meet mine. I’m not ready for that just yet, but how do I tell him without him feeling like I’m not serious about us?
We totally see your dilemma. He probs just wants a reciprocal meeting to get a feel for how serious you both are about the future because, after all, people come with their families. So be honest: tell him it will happen as soon as you are comfortable, but you’re not quite there yet. Reassure him that it’s not about him but rather the fact your parents aren’t as relaxed as his folks and they’ll make the whole thing kinda awkward (or whatever your concern is). That said, you’ll have to work towards this happening at some stage. The best way to get prepared? Be open and honest with your folks about your relationship, so they’re as chilled as they’ll ever be by meeting time. Then what happens, happens. Ultimately, you cannot control the outcomes, but you can do your best to manage both your bloke’s and your parents’ expectations.