I am 44 years old and don’t have enough stamina to handle my new girlfriend. I’m too embarrassed to bring it up with her, but she obviously realises by now and hasn’t said anything.
She is like an energiser bunny. She needs to have sex every day and can’t keep her hands off me. At first I thought it was a good thing, but now I’m running out of gas.
Is there anything I can do to increase my sex drive? – Pete
I’m guessing she’s quite a bit younger than you, so now you may understand what some people say that you should be careful what you wish for. I’m not making fun of you or your situation in anyway, but older men need to realise when they go out with women 10, 15, 20 years or more their junior that they may find it difficult to keep pace with their younger partner after a while. What’s nice is that she has not made any comment about you slowing down a bit. That suggests a sense of maturity on her part.
Although you think she ‘has’ to have sex daily, she may be quite happy with the slower pace now that the giddying days at the start of a new relationship has passed.
Medically speaking, are you getting enough sleep? Do you have a healthy diet? You can’t expect to have a robust sex life if you are not getting sufficient rest or eating properly.
But there could be other reasons that may be causing you to slow down. I would suggest you go and see your doctor and have a general check-up. In fact, all men over the age of 40 should have regular health checks, so if you haven’t done that recently, it’s important to do so.
And if you have, as there’s a generalised change, it would be worth having a chat with your doctor about this in person. They may just listen, but I suspect they’ll want to run some simple blood tests and check your blood pressure, weight, etc.
I hope this helps.– Helen