Is 40 the New 30? Part 4
Why You Should Just Do It!
Do you guys remember a few articles back when I encouraged you to try new things? Well guess what?
Idid it a few weeks ago and I, Harriette “Sunshine” Skeete, decided to take time for me. Oh my gosh... the shock and the horror of it! How dare you, a 40-year-old who is a wife and mother with countless responsibilities, decide to take time off for just you? Conventional wisdom states that this is a terrible idea, but at 40... who cares about conventional wisdom?! So yes, after I discussed it with my husband, I booked a flight to the small and quaint island of Tobago.
I did this with a little bit of trepidation; after all, I was going to a place I had never been before and where I knew no one. The more conservative part of me said, “Maybe you should wait and go with your family; after all, you don’t know anyone. What if something happens? What if you don’t like it? What if...?” So, I politely told Ms Conservative to shut up. I turned down her volume and I said to myself, “Just Do It!”
When I left Barbados, it was bittersweet; though excited, I did not know what adventures would await. And worst of all, the guilt came. Oh man, it came like a tornado when I bent down to kiss my five-year-old and she held my face and looked intently at me with tears in her eyes and asked why I wasn’t taking her with me. So, I took a deep breath and hubby took over explaining that mummy was going on vacation and will be back soon and that he was taking them to the beach to have fun. Crisis averted! Thank God for my husband.
When I arrived in Tobago, it was as beautiful as I imagined, and I immediately set about planning my week. I must say there was something liberating about knowing that I could do, what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it!
On day one, I decided to take a drive, which lasted about an hour and 15 minutes, to a place called the Argyle Falls; it kind of sounds foreboding, doesn’t it? Anyways, I travelled with the guide through old cocoa plantations for about 20 minutes, and then we arrived at the waterfall and it took my breath away; it was majestic. The waterfall had several layers, and you were encouraged to hike to each level. Feeling adventurous, I was keen to start the climb to see what other beauties would be revealed. Making my way up to what seemed to be a treacherous path, I summoned my inner Indiana Jones and started to journey one slippery step at a time. Every step seemed unsure and shaky at best, but I continued on, knowing that I would be rewarded for this arduous task. can’t believe I was there and as I looked around, I realised that I was alone, alone enjoying this moment – a moment carved out in time never to be seized again and I revelled in it. I went directly into the waterfall so I could feel the power of the pulsating water on my back, and time stood still for a moment. It was euphoric and I was captivated – no words, just feelings, and I realised then that I was at peace. Each day after that was one adventure after another, whether I decided to go out and explore the island or lie in my bed until I felt like getting up. The freedom that I felt was amazing – no pressure, no stress, no rushing. I will never this forget this vacation and I encourage everyone to take time for yourself so that you can maintain a healthy balance of mind, body and soul.
IBy the way, in the spirit of trying new things...do you remember the Brazilian wax? Needless to say dear readers, it is not for the fainthearted and I learned from the lovely wax specialist at the spa I went to in Tobago that I was the first person ever to scream and cry in their spa. She did tell me that the pain would be worth it, and it was!
I finally reached the top and it did not disappoint. It was one of the most beautiful sights I have ever seen, cascading thunderous waters and fluttering mists of water jumping to every beat. As the sunlight descended, a multitude of rainbows danced with a Caribbean rhythm.
Harriette “Sunshine” Skeete is a life coach, trainer and marketer. Keep following her article as she shares intimate details on what it’s like to turn 40.