Peaked in­ter­est in sex toys

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Dear He­len,

How can I in­tro­duce sex toys into the bed­room with­out in­tim­i­dat­ing my hus­band? He is very old fash­ioned and tells me “toys are for kids”. I roll my eyes and change the topic. I can’t be­lieve one per­son can be so closed minded. I love him and have no prob­lem with the sex as it is now, but I also don’t see any harm in us­ing a toy ev­ery now and again. – De­bra, 38

Dear De­bra,

Tell your hus­band that age is only a num­ber and the two of you are far from old. Ac­tu­ally, you’re re­ally just “a pair of big kids” and I hope that doesn’t change. Why?

Be­cause if you think your­self old, you’ll be­come old, and there’s a lot of ex­cit­ing, fun things to do be­fore then. In­stead of talk­ing about it, you could just buy one and show him when the con­ver­sa­tion seems right, and he may be re­spon­sive. I speak here of “toys” for fe­male stim­u­la­tion or male stim­u­la­tion. I am not re­fer­ring to a dildo.

I em­pha­sise this be­cause some men can be very in­tim­i­dated by women us­ing dil­dos larger than their pe­nis. Many men of­ten see this as their part­ner say­ing their pe­nis is too small to sat­isfy them. So please bear that in mind.

If the dildo is not the is­sue, then try to help him to re­alise that what­ever his age in num­bers and years, he’s still the sexy young man he once was and as such, he makes you want to ex­plore safe things to­gether.

I hope that helps.– He­len

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