Attorney: Men not pursuing rights
ALL LAWS ARE MADE for males and females equally, but men are too slow to seek out their rights.
This was the view expressed by attorney Alvan Babb during a recent panel discussion on the Rights Of A Citizen, at Mount Zion Missions Church, Rock Dundo, St James, during the Sixteen Days Of Activism.
Babb, one of the panellists, said some men’s egos also prevented them from taking certain actions, which included applying for maintenance, and going back to the court to enforce orders to have access to their children.
With regard to domestic violence, he told the gathering: “Men suffer from a type of ego that would not allow them to walk into a police station and say, ‘My wife beat me’.”
Former Deputy Commissioner of Police Bertie Hinds, also on the panel, said a man or husband lived in two worlds. He explained that there was the man’s life, and the home life, and often those things were competing entities as men functioned differently in both environments.
“He could lose status in the man’s world. A lot of people think that is a joke, but he cannot walk the street .
. . . We need to be astute and careful because it is a shaming exercise,” Hinds said in reference to domestic violence against men.
Babb said all parties needed to give and take and, regarding children, when one person was not willing to concede, it was a recipe for disaster and had multiple effects on the offspring. He reminded the congregation that domestic violence was not only the man and woman involved in a relationship, but spanned family members or any person living in the same home.
Hinds said in the formative years, domestic violence issues were dealt with by women generally, but now almost all members of the Royal Barbados Police Force were trained and qualified to handle them. He added that if anyone was in a situation, they could call any station and ask for an officer trained in domestic violence. There was also a Family Conflict Unit in operation and a system for dealing with cases, with the more seasoned officers sent to deal with those situations.
Babb said policing had to keep up with the changing dynamics of society, and that included using more technology. (LK)