“All too often, women have a hard time putting themselves first. We are so busy giving and doing for others that we feel guilty about taking time for ourselves. In Be the One You Need, Sophia lays out a road- map for prioritizing ourselves and shows us that meaningful self-care, regardless of your age, is about being able to help yourself so you can truly love and help others.”
—Mika Brzezinski, bestselling author, founder of Know Your Value, co-host of Morning Joe
Description
From acclaimed journalist Sophia A. Nelson, the bestselling author of The Woman Code, comes a poignant, powerful, and revealing memoir providing life lessons that emphasize the importance of self-care, self-love, and self-understanding that will lead to freedom, healing from the past, and a better future.
In deeply personal reflections, acclaimed journalist Sophia A. Nelson offers an inspirational memoir that will guide you on a path toward true and meaningful self-care. She shares 21 life lessons she’s learned to help us accept that when we dare to face our traumas, losses, fears, family dysfunctions, and relationship issues, we can heal from them. She shows us that doing the work of meaningful and consistent self-care not only makes us happier, but better spouses, parents, siblings, lovers, employers, and neighbors. In this powerfully raw and honest book, you’ll discover:
• How to manage your emotions before they manage you;
• How to protect your peace, the passport to your soul;
• Why the most important relationship you have is with yourself; and
• How to be intentional about your choices.
The compelling lessons in Be the One You Need clearly demonstrate that the answers we seek to life’s questions are always within us. Nelson empowers us to finally ask ourselves, What do I want? What do I need? How do I feel? And once we hear the answers of our soul, how to put them into practice.
Reviews
“As women, we often put ourselves last. As Black women, we always put ourselves last. Sophia challenges all of us to change that—and put a deeper, more meaningful self-care and soul care regimen into practice so that only then can we fill the cup of others we love to the fullest.”
—Rev. Dr. Bernice A. King, CEO, the Martin Luther King, Jr. Center for Nonviolent Social Change
“Be the One You Need is about looking after yourself first. If we run ourselves ragged, we’re no use to anyone. It’s not something anyone should feel guilty about—Sophia Nelson gets that.”
—Katty Kay, former BBC news anchor, journalist NBC News, and bestselling author of The Confidence Code
“We all need self-care, men and women alike. Be the One You Need offers a wonderful blueprint to face the challenge of these difficult days and to be deliberate in seeking your joy.”
—Eddie S. Glaude, Jr., Princeton University professor and author of Begin Again: James Baldwin’s America and Its Urgent Lessons for Our Own