"Unburdening Motherhood offers mothers the gift that they desperately need: permission to be human. Dr. Close compassionately guides readers through the Internal Family Systems approach, helping them recognize that the critical voices and overwhelming feelings that arise in parenting are not character flaws but protective parts that can be understood and healed. This is a practical road map for mothers ready to break free from shame, honor their own needs, and parent from a place of greater wholeness."
—Jenna Riemersma, LPC, certified IFS Therapist and IFS clinical consultant, bestselling author of Altogether You and IFS Integration
Description
Practical tools to help mothers heal so they can approach motherhood with more self-trust, compassion, and joy.
When clinical psychologist and mindfulness meditation teacher Dr. Angele Close started a family, she assumed she would have the skills, maturity, and all the love to create a harmonious, joy-filled home. But past trauma and the heavy weight of cultural myths about what makes “a good mother” turned parenting into a minefield of triggers. To truly break the cycle of generational pain, she realized she still had inner work to do while also navigating the relentless demands of modern-day motherhood.
Close's experience is all too familiar to many mothers. A recent US Surgeon General advisory confirmed that 33% of parents experience high levels of stress, with nearly half feeling overwhelmed. Studies show that mothers, more than fathers, find parenting stressful and feel judged, often leading to isolating, burnout, and depression. Add to that, many feel the burden of cultural myths like:
- A good mom loves all aspects of motherhood.
- A good mom sacrifices her needs for her family.
- A good mom raises “good” kids.
The pressure to be the perfect mom often leads to guilt, shame, and silence—creating unnecessary pain that affects both mothers and their children. But instead of ignoring her mounting triggers, Close turned them into profound opportunities for healing which she shares in Unburdening Motherhood.
Unburdening Motherhood explores “matrescence,” the profound and often unspoken identity transformation women undergo when they become mothers. Matrescence encapsulates how cultural expectations, internalized beliefs, and resurfaced childhood wounds collide during this transition. These can send already stressed moms spiraling into feelings of shame, unprocessed grief, and often isolation and self-blame. Drawing on the tenets of Internal Family Systems, an evidence-based model for trauma healing, Close offers mothers a hopeful path to understand their inner “parts” so they can heal and thrive in motherhood.
Mothers want to enjoy mothering but feel weighed down by these unrealistic expectations. They worry about passing on their wounds to their children, but therapy often feels inaccessible. This is where Unburdening Motherhood steps in—teaching mothers how to address their inner struggles, transforming confusion into clarity, and becoming the mothers they aspire to be.
Reviews
“Unburdening Motherhood is exactly what we need in order to identify and shed limiting beliefs regarding what it means to be a mother in our current society. Close unveils how our internal world has taken on roles that no longer serve mothers in their process of being loving and present for their children. She shares many ideas and exercises that will help mothers be the mothers they want to be. Read this book on your journey to break old cycles and plant a new garden of motherhood.”
—Seth Kopald, PhD, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner and presenter, author of Self-Led: Living a Connected Life with Yourself and With Others
“In Unburdening Motherhood, Angele Close offers mothers something rare—permission to be fully human. Through courageous self-revelation and the lens of Internal Family Systems, she shows how the messy, painful moments of parenting—anger, shame, exhaustion, self-doubt—can become gateways to healing and self-compassion. Her voice is down-to-earth, warm, and real—like a trusted friend who walks beside you and tells you the truth. This is not another book that tells mothers to be perfect; it’s an invitation to remember that every moment of imperfection can open the heart.”
—Anne Cushman, author of The Mama Sutra: A Story of Love, Loss, and the Path of Motherhood
“Becoming a mom is one of life’s most beautiful experiences—but no one prepares you for the emotional, physical, and mental toll modern motherhood can take. Unburdening Motherhood is the book every mom needs to better understand herself and break free from the trauma, triggers, and burnout that come with intensive parenting. Dr. Angele Close offers an easy-to-follow, compassionate pathway to healing and wholeness.”
—Darlynn Childress, life and parent coach and host of the “Become A Calm Mama” podcast