Why I Left, Why I Stayed

Conversations on Christianity Between an Evangelical Father and His Humanist Son

Description

Bestselling Christian author, activist, and scholar Tony Campolo and his son Bart, an avowed Humanist, debate their spiritual differences and explore similarities involving faith, belief, and hope that they share.

Over a Thanksgiving dinner, fifty-year-old Bart Campolo announced to his Evangelical pastor father, Tony Campolo, that after a lifetime immersed in the Christian faith, he no longer believed in God. The revelation shook the Campolo family dynamic and forced father and son to each reconsider his own personal journey of faith—dual spiritual investigations into theology, faith, and Humanism that eventually led Bart and Tony back to one another.

In Why I Left, Why I Stayed, the Campolos reflect on their individual spiritual odysseys and how they evolved when their paths diverged. Tony, a renowned Christian teacher and pastor, recounts his experience, from the initial heartbreak of discovering Bart’s change in faith, to the subsequent healing he found in his own self-examination, to his embracing of his son’s point of view. Bart, an author and Humanist chaplain at the University of Southern California, considers his faith journey from Progressive Christianity to Humanism, revealing how it affected his outlook and transformed his relationship with his father.

As Why I Left, Why I Stayed makes clear, a painful schism between father and son that could have divided them irreparably became instead an opening that offered each an invaluable look not only at what separated them, but more importantly, what they shared.


This raw, loving, and intellectually honest book explores:


  • A Journey to Humanism: Bart Campolo recounts his path from Progressive Christianity to becoming a Humanist chaplain, and the moment he told his famous pastor father he no longer believed in God.
  • A Father’s Perspective: Bestselling author Tony Campolo shares his initial heartbreak, his own theological self-examination, and how he learned to embrace his son without compromising his own convictions.
  • A Crisis of Belief: A frank and vulnerable look at the difficult questions that lead to doubt and, for some, leaving the church and the Christian faith behind entirely.
  • A Model for Families: For parents and children on opposite sides of the faith divide, this book offers a powerful example of how to navigate profound differences with grace and unconditional love.

About the author(s)

Tony Campolo (left) is a bestselling author, speaker, and professor emeritus of sociology at Eastern University. He has written more than thirty books, including The Kingdom of God Is a Party, It’s Friday But Sunday’s Comin’, and Red Letter Christians. He is also the cofounder of RedLetterChristians.org. He and his wife Peggy live in Philadelphia.

Bart Campolo (right) is a community builder, counselor, and humanist chaplain at the University of Southern California. He is also the founder of Mission Year and host of the popular Humanize Me podcast. He and his wife Marty live in Los Angeles.

Reviews

“Bold. Gripping. Brutally honest.” - Ronald J. Sider, Palmer Seminary at Eastern University

“Rarely are questions of faith genuinely debated with the kind of sincerity, insight, and compassion presented in Tony and Bart Campolo’s thoughtful new book. We can all be grateful this isn’t just a family discussion.” - Bryan Stevenson, author of Just Mercy

“This book offers a model that could bring healing to many torn relationships--a thoughtful dialogue into which people from across the spiritual spectrum can enter.” - Lynne Hybels, Willow Creek Community Church

“Bart’s journey—and especially the amazing relationship he’s forged with his superstar preacher dad—will delight anyone looking for an example of how to live a beautiful and good life without God. Tony’s response—to honestly engage without attacking—is equally inspiring.” - Greg M. Epstein, Humanist Chaplain at Harvard University

“An indispensable treatise of hope and transformation. In an age when the fastest growing religious demographic in the United States are those who are not formally affiliated with religion, Tony and Bart provide us all with a model for how we engage, interrogate, and reconcile our similarities and differences.” - Varun Soni, Dean of Religious Life, University of Southern California

“The Campolos’ dialogue is a template for families and friends who want to move past debate and into fellowship.” - Booklist

“Coming at a time of growing religious disaffiliation, the Campolos’ book casts new light on why belief dies (or is never born) and, perhaps more important, what happens after.” - Tom Krattenmaker, Religion News Service

“A love story for our time. One of the most honest books of this generation.” - Kenda Creasy Dean, dean of Princeton Theological Seminary and author of Almost Christian

“The Campolos have done us all a huge favor by discussing their differences right here in the open. A remarkable book.” - Hemant Mehta, editor of FriendlyAtheist.com

“An intellectual feast, an example, and a window into robust expressions of both evangelicalism and humanism. This is an important book for our times. Please read it.” - Rev. Dr. David P. Gushee, author of Changing Our Mind

“[Tony Campolo is] one of the most important evangelical Christian preachers of the last 50 years, a prolific author and an erstwhile spiritual adviser to Bill Clinton.” - New York Times

“[Bart Campolo] is a rising star of atheism.” - New York Times

“It is all too easy for believers and secularists to caricature each other [but] both Campolos invite readers into something deeper than a simple clash of worldviews.” - Library Journal

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