Forty minute round is an overkill
Hold your horses, sex expert advises that the longer it takes is not necessarily the panacea
Aforty- minute round is not natural. This is a take away from the just ended, Just Sex event. That evening, the room went into an uproar of murmurs as Sexologist, Dr. Elna Rudolph took her time to explain that if your partner is consenting to that duration and continues enjoying the engagement, then so be it. You are however perfectly healthy with your 20 or so minutes, she said. Dr Rudolf, who is the resident Sexologist for the Just Sex was in her element. And this was nothing short of what she usually shares with her audience, when it comes to all things sex.
She did not leave any stone unturned as she dished out all the good stuff. She gave away trade secrets that had the crowd giggling and obviously intrigued to try and test, in the confines of their intimate spaces, some of the methods she threw around. As president of the global sexual health forum, the Dr. has engaged with other professionals in her field to enhance their teachings and utilise extensive research to curate solutions and methods aimed at enhancing the sexual experiences of all.
From foreplay leading to sex, to foreplay without sex and just to arouse the erogenous regions for pleasure, different techniques were introduced to the audience and many left armed with advanced skill sets and references for further engagement.
“If our own children do not hear about it from us, who are they hearing it from? Or to put it in context of this day and age, from what platform are they getting information about sex, and controlled by who?” she asked.
This particular Friday evening was nothing short of exciting and as pre- requisite for entry into the event was a welcome drink by sponsor Benju, curated by liquid chef Robust Hun ( Kesego Moeng). The Mistress of Ceremonies for the night, Ross Tshiamo; former drive time radio host, welcomed guests and provided a brief history on the event before welcoming the first speaker, Prof. Lucky Odirile on stage. The petite and ever so elegant Relationship, Marriage Counsellor and Life Coach set the precedent for the evening as she gave personal analogies that were relatable, giving the whole room peace of mind, evidenced by resounding agreeable chimes from the audience. The professor, who is rooted on all issues related to Faith, stayed true to form as an academic instructor and gave everyone in attendance homework, to go and introspect on certain aspects in their lives which they might be carrying into current relationships and sexual experiences.
Second up, was locally renowned Fertility and Infertility, Men’s Health Specialist, Dr. Vincent Molelekwa. He took the audience on a deep anatomical dive into all things pertaining fertility and infertility. Causes, preventative methods, medical solutions and trials, and exactly what it is that we do or don’t do, as men and women, to bring about or exacerbate some of these conditions in our bodies. For a multi- page presentation that could easily be lost in translation or marred by boredom, this particular talk had everyone on the edge of their seats, waiting with bated breath to catch what the next slide had to offer and how and what the Dr. would quip about in relation to real life situations that some in the room were very much aware of. It was enthralling and captivating to say the least.
Third up was Dudu Monkge who gave an awe- inspiring testimonial about her journey with Endometriosis. Beginning with her late teens right through to her becoming a mother, she expounded on the various challenges of suffering from a condition which hides behinds preconceived notions and stereotypical misconception. In simple terms, she revealed to the audience how Endo knows how to hide very well in plain sight. Quite a fitting execution in that the previous speaker, Dr. Molelekwa continues to treat Dudu for her condition so that it is manageable, the flow of information gelled so well. We all learnt to be kinder, gentler and more understanding from Mma Monkge’s talk.
The professionals ended the night with a roundtable discussion which involved the audience. It was like being in a seminar with professionals as they dissect issues of sexual health and wellness for their journals.
This is a conversation that must not end with an event, as the organiser Michelle Phetlhe has said over and over.