Tourism under threat as more rhinos die

Things are looking bad in the wild. We gather that a dozen more rhinos were killed by poachers over the past few days and if no serious action is taken to stop these marauding killers, the tourism sector will open up no attraction for tourists. But what is even more irking is the blame game that has ensued. With his business interests mostly in this tourism sector, SKI has been the most vocal in his criticism of government’s lackadaisical approach to the matter, obviously even more angry that the anti-poaching unit was disarmed by his successors - purportedly to spite him and his brother. Akere magatwe a re the two guys tota bone they were stepping up this wildlife protection more for themselves and their personal business interests than really for the good of the nation, and with some within the current government knowing the great extent to which the gentlemen were using state resources to safeguard their businesses, someone decided to just spite them. Now the wild animals out there are dying in disturbing numbers and the current leaders claim to know that the killings are an inside job sponsored by that aggrieved pair and their business partners. Gatwe the pair wants the world and the nation to be angry at the current government. We at the Magatwe Crew have no care about conspiracy theories - we call upon those with powers to do so, to ensure our animals do not die, at whatever cost. We want our rhinos alive.

Should we expect conflict in a relationship? Yes! Conflict is inevitable. Whether you like it or not, it will happen. How you handle conflict determines the quality of your relationship.

The first conflict we experience in a relationship is with someone of the opposite sex, someone from a different culture and language group, someone from a different country, race or creed. Conflict happens all the time.

Most people want peace and they seek to escape from the frustration of the workplace, the challenges of raising children, even the constant buzz of the television. These issues can be dealt with maturely if we view them with a stable mind and with keen understanding. Being honest with yourself about what is happening in your marriage is a perfect place to begin seeking that healthy relationship. Being honest about what is happening in your marriage, however, requires introspection and critical self-evaluation than being willing to say what needs to be said to our mate. Many are frightened of saying what needs to be said, fearing that bringing conflict out in the open will bring even more conflict.

Let me offer some wisdom for dealing with such situations.

* Keep in mind that you both must desire the best for your relationship. If you do that you both will keep the focus on building a long and lasting union. To do this requires maturity of thought and action for mutual benefit.

* Begin slowly. You don’t have to share everything all at once. Begin with an attitude that you are going to bring things out in the open that you have been too frightened to say. You are going to be honest with yourself about what is hurting you and ease into emotional honesty.

* Write down what you are feeling. Begin by telling yourself the truth, and then lead into having a critical conversation with your mate about something that has been troubling you. Own the topic, avoiding any hint of blame. Make it about what you are feeling, not about what he/ she has done.

* Reassure your mate of your positive intentions. Make it clear that you bring up these topics because you want restoration of your relationship, not to point fingers. Your intent must never be to hurt your mate, but to bring you closer. You both want connection, contact and closeness.

* Talk about one issue at a time. Risk speaking the unspoken! Be honest with yourself about what you have kept inside; make an agreement with your mate that you will no longer avoid difficult conversations.

* Finally, make new agreements with each other. Find solutions that are the best of your thinking and their thinking. Nobody wins and nobody loses. Instead, both of you win. You clear the air, paving the path toward a new level of intimacy. You make true contact by understanding each other and respecting each other’s point of view. That way fear evaporates, bitterness dissolves and you feel a renewed sense of connection to your mate.

Talk about one issue at a time. Risk speaking the unspoken! Be honest with yourself about what you have kept inside; make an agreement with your mate that you will no longer avoid difficult conversations.