Reconsider your view of sexuality and sexual behaviour

One of the many issues that couples have to contend with is the phenomenon of having children before they get married. This reveals something about what goes on in people’s minds when they are courting.

Sex plays a big role in courtship and that is why couples end up with unwanted pregnancies and children. Many young girls get caught up in relationships where they fall pregnant and the guy is not really ready to be a parent. Often times he absconds and becomes an absentee father and unloving partner who, it seems, was driven by the pleasure of sex without giving cognizance to the responsibilities involved.

The longer the relationship lasts, the more the likelihood of sexual encounters between couples, which leads to results that one is not even prepared for. Because young people hardly talk about meaningful issues during courtship they tend to focus on pleasure rather than cultivate a solid relationship. Prolonged relationships which lead to commitment issues often have a negative impact on people’s lives. Most people are truly not committed to long-term relationships. The fact that they don’t even consider what is involved in a serious relationship means they don’t intend to have a serious courtship.

Courtship challenges include children being born out of wedlock and they tending to suffer the most because their parents have not planned to have children. The parents get embroiled in a battle for custody, child-support issues, visitation rights and there tends to be a lack of bonding between parents and the children if the parents are not committed to a long-term relationship. This leads to children growing up without one parent or both biological parents who are supposed to be responsible for them. The evidence is very real in our social structures which are collapsing due to the incoherence of social values which often are a result of dysfunctional families in which children are raised with undetermined values because they are brought up in adverse environments where true character is not cultivated and they are left to determine their destinies on their own. This often breeds bitterness, uncontrolled anger, feelings of resentment and betrayal which then gives rise to rebellion and even criminal activity as a way of compensating for the losses incurred during childhood.

It is high time we thought seriously about bringing children into this world without the natural care that fosters a wholesome building of character that will make our citizens fruitful and productive in every sense. Young people, please reconsider your view of sexuality and sexual behaviour. Sleeping around has its consequences. Illicit sex has dire consequences which have an adverse effect on the moral fiber of our society. We now have children having babies and they have no clue what it entails to be a father or mother. Those in the older generation need to ask themselves where they have failed our younger generation. Let the younger generation ask themselves where they are failing their future generations.