THE KISS OF BETRAYAL
Many cultures interpret a kiss on the cheek as a hospitable greeting when a guest arrives. It may even be a simple expression of respect and brotherly love. But a kiss coming from Judas on the night that Jesus was arrested and eventually crucified, was not only grievous, it was hypocritical.
Judas had been with Jesus for years. He had been his friend, and brother. This is what makes betrayal painful, but to seal it with a kiss not only adds salt to injury but also masks the depth and cruelty of his true motivation. There is no denying it betrayal is incredibly painful. And those that cunningly orchestrate it know that very well.
At some point in life everyone will experience betrayal. The painful fact about it is that more often than not it is by someone close, and one we love and trust. It could be a mother, father, sister, brother, best friend, spouse or workmate.
While it is almost impossible to stop it from happening to you, you need to ensure that when it does happen, you deal with effectively. If you don’t, it can kill you. It did Jesus, literally. Not dealing with betrayal can spell doom. It can like poison, slowly but surely go on to affect all spheres of life in ways we never imagined. Hurt people, hurt people.
You may because of the betrayal, go on a rampage and hurt innocent people along your path of life, whether intentionally or not. Like a wound that takes time to heal, your emotions need time when dealing with betrayal. The feelings of hurt, pain, despair, helplessness and sometimes even confusion will feel like they will never go away. However, with time, as you work through the pain, it will become less intense and you may begin to realise that you can live passed the bad experience. Such is life. What you don’t want to do is to deny that you are hurting, perhaps because you do not want to be vulnerable. Admit that you have been betrayed and you are hurt. It is impossible to ignore it. Cry if you have to. Even you macho men cry and let it all out. Crying is one of the ways to let out emotions and frustrations building up in you. It is good for the healing process. After your release, prepare to take positive action to move forward and deal with the situation. Make decisions about whether you will confront the person, and how. Whether there is some damage control that needs to be done, and whether the betrayal has affected your relationship with them and others. Above all devise a plan to leave all behind. Remember, you still have a life to live. There are still dreams and plans to achieve.