The value of a submissive wife

A good wife knows she has to offer her husband the necessary support systems for him to succeed at being the leader in the home; she complements him, she does not compete with him. The beauty of a woman is seen when she is in submission to her husband. Submission is a voluntary act performed by the free will of a woman who understands her role in the marriage and home. Submission is defined as humility, obedience and willingly ranking oneself under leadership. A woman is at her best when she submits to her husband. A man is at his best when he lovingly leads his wife to accomplish what God purposed for him to achieve. Together they work as a partnership and consolidate their team effort to achieve the best possible goals for their family. Dominance, dictatorship, chauvinism and authoritarianism don’t feature in a man’s pursuit of good leadership. He doesn’t have to call the shots. He doesn’t have to have his way and coerce his wife to toe the line. But he lovingly leads his wife to enjoy a refreshing relationship of marriage bliss.

The woman in Proverbs chapter 31 sets the tone for being a virtuous wife. She enjoys her husband’s leadership and supports him in his efforts to bring happiness into the home. She doesn’t argue with her husband and struggle for leadership. She doesn’t contend with her husband; instead she offers him the necessary support systems for him to succeed at being the leader in the home. She complements him. She doesn’t compete with him. She responds to a loving and caring husband who makes it his heart’s responsibility to ensure her happiness. Does this mean they never argue over certain things? Absolutely not! They are human. They will argue but they will also know how to resolve issues without hurting their marriage and jeopardizing their family. That’s wisdom in action. The submissive wife considers the needs of her husband and makes every effort to ensure his happiness. Because her husband lovingly leads her, she voluntarily submits to his leadership and enjoys her husband to the fullest measure. He doesn’t look down on her or abuse her. She doesn’t disrespect him or abuse him either. Both husband and wife realize they are in the marriage for mutual benefit and will not do anything out of selfishness. The submissive wife is not easily influenced by public opinion. She doesn’t run her convictions through the filter of social websites or organizations which claim to fight for women’s rights but turns to the word of God for wisdom and guidance. The word of God is her final authority in terms of what she believes and how she behaves. Her criteria are measured alongside the word of God. She asserts herself and her self-image is enhanced by how the word of God defines her. She chooses her friends wisely and is not intimidated by what other people think of her. She does what is right and what is best for her marriage. She challenges wrong ideologies and stands up for truth. She admires her husband despite his shortcomings. She is proud to married to him. She joyfully submits to Christ and to her husband.