Seek help for fear of flying
Q: I’m not a good flyer. I’ve only been on one vacation and both flights were horrible. On one, the plane filled with black smoke on takeoff, creating panic among passengers. On the other, our plane hit another plane on the runway. It’s left me with a very deep, real fear of flying.
My in-laws fly multiple times a year for vacations and work. They want to take our family on vacations, all of which require flying. Whenever we’re together, they say how ridiculous my fear is.
Even my husband raises it jokingly. I don’t know how to get them to understand how real my fear is. How can I get them to give me time to deal with it at my own pace?
A: They should respect your fear. That said, the fact that you’re not showing any effort to deal with it, likely has them worried. It’s not just about vacations, though their desire to share some with your family is well meant. But in today’s world, it sometimes becomes necessary to travel and inconvenient to go any other way than by plane.
You’re not alone. Others have this fear, and there are ways to address it, including hypnosis and behaviour modification approaches.
Insist that your husband NOT joke about it, and that he tells his parents their pushing isn’t helping. Then, for your own sake as well as your family’s (children will be influenced by how you handle bad/scary experiences), you need to get help.
Tip of the day
Fear of flying is a phobia that often requires professional help to surmount.