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7% of those sur­veyed say they think about hav­ing sex all the time. 30% think about it sev­eral times a day. 15% say it crosses their mind at least once a day. (Al­ber­tans think about hav­ing sex the most.)

If they’re NOT think­ing about it... 31% say it’s be­cause they don’t like the way they look naked. 27% would rather watch their favourite tele­vi­sion show. 20% say they’re bored with their part­ner but not in­ter­ested in hav­ing an af­fair. and...

33% say they’re on med­i­ca­tion that has damp­ened their li­bido.

THIS STATIS­TIC SUR­PRISES ME be­cause of the pa­tients who walk into my of­fice; a much higher per­cent­age than 33% are on med­i­ca­tions that af­fect their sex­ual func­tion­ing, but most of them wouldn’t know it,” says Klein­platz. “So it’s good that some of the re­spon­dents know of the con­nec­tion, but I also sus­pect there are more than 33% who are on med­i­ca­tions that in­ter­fere with their li­bido and don’t know it.” Klein­platz says that anti­de­pres­sants, some hor­monal con­tra­cep­tives, like Depo-Provera or Yas­min, as well as many other med­i­ca­tions have this side ef­fect, adding that al­co­hol, es­pe­cially binge drink­ing, also in­hibits de­sire.

TOO PO­LITE FOR YOUR OWN GOOD? 78% SAY THEY ARE COM­FORT­ABLE ASK­ING FOR WHAT THEY WANT IN BED. The re­al­ity is that there are many women who aren’t shy to re­quest ‘Would you go down on me?’ but these same women are too shy to say ‘Can you please go down on me longer be­cause I haven’t cli­maxed yet,’” says Klein­platz. “The kinds of things that peo­ple can’t talk about in bed are much sub­tler. Stuff like ‘Please stop biting my nip­ples; I’d rather you licked them more gen­tly’ or ‘Please stop be­ing so gen­tle with my nip­ples and bite them.’ For many rea­sons, those are the kinds of things that peo­ple are too shy to ask for. If they’re in a long-term re­la­tion­ship, they might be more will­ing, but if that’s not the case, they can be ner­vous about ask­ing for what they want be­cause they don’t want to be seen as de­mand­ing or they don’t want

the other per­son to think they’re not en­joy­ing them­selves.


THESE STATIS­TICS STRUCK ME AS QUITE UN­LIKELY. There’s a good chance they be­lieve this, but they’re likely mis­taken,” says Klein­platz. “And while 61% may be­lieve they have been tested ‘for ev­ery­thing,’ they’re likely mis­taken about that too. Many women think that they’re be­ing tested for STIs when they see their phys

icians once a year for a Pap test, but they’re not. That test only looks for cer­vi­cal-cell changes; it doesn’t check for chlamy­dia, gon­or­rhea or syphilis. Your physician would have to or­der those tests

so the lab knows to look for them. It’s not some­thing that ‘just pops up.’ And if you have blood work done, you’re not be­ing tested for HIV un­less you have given your doc­tor con­sent to screen for

this. If no one asks for your con­sent, this isn’t be­ing checked.

48% ask new part­ners if they are cur­rently in­fected with an STD/STI.

67% would al­ways tell their part­ner

if they had an STD/STI.


take pre­cau­tions to pro­tect them­selves

from STDs/STIs 80% of the time. h

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