We asked… amanda brooks answered

When this former fashion director for Barneys New York left the U.S., it was to take up residence on an idyllic farm in the English countryside (and to write an inspirational guide to a fabulous life called Always Pack a Party Dress, out now). If anyone knows a thing or two about aspirational guesting, it’s this woman. Q Yesterday I got the big invite: dinner with my dream man’s fam. How do I make the best possible first impression? “Bring a gift, ask them about themselves, say please and thank you and don’t dress too sexy! Also, a handwritten note afterwards is a must.” Q My friend Sylvia just invited me to spend a weekend at her farm. Sartorial survival tips? “Usually people who live on a farm have tons of practical shoes in every shape and style, but check with your host to make sure she has your size. Rain gear is compulsory unless Sylvia has some you can borrow. I am constantly lending visiting friends extra wellington boots and rain jackets on our farm.” Q My boss invited me to her daughter’s first-birthday party. What does one even get the toddler who has it all? “Every city has a great toy shop, and I usually ask the salesperson what the best toys are for the age of the child I am buying for.”