MEET & GREET

ELLE (Canada) - - Special -

Some­times not even swip­ing right is enough to make a con­nec­tion. A 2016 Ox­ford Univer­sity study found that 49 per­cent of mes­sages on dat­ing apps go unan­swered. Here are three real-world ways to start a convo:

1. MAKE EYE CON­TACT.

Our bod­ies tell peo­ple whether or not we’re in­ter­ested long be­fore we say hello. If you spot a Gosling, hold his gaze a split se­cond longer.

2. TRY THE “DO YOU COME HERE OF­TEN?”

ap­proach—or at least a vari­a­tion of it, says Toronto-based re­la­tion­ship ex­pert and psy­chother­a­pist Ni­cole McCance. “You want to find some­thing you have in com­mon, and in this mo­ment the only thing you re­ally have in com­mon is your en­vi­ron­ment. So try say­ing ‘I love this bar. Do you live around here?’”

3. ONCE YOU’VE BRO­KEN THE ICE, AVOID YES OR NO QUES­TIONS.

“If you want to be in­ter­est­ing, be in­ter­ested,” says McCance, not­ing that this strat­egy also takes the pres­sure off peo­ple who tend to get tongue-tied. “When they’re chat­ting, it’s less nerve-rack­ing for you.”

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