A name change is a personal choice if legally possible to do so

My husband of seven years and I have a strong relationship and three children (four, two, and newborn).

Before marriage, my motherin-law had pressured me to NOT change my name, because changing hers had been a mistake. My husband agreed with her then but has since softened those views. I’ve never loved my maiden name and while a staunch feminist, I’m also a romantic who loves the connection of a shared family name. I regret that I never changed it. I tried to accept my decision to keep my name, but it never felt authentic. Is it too late to change my name? I have a career built on my maiden name and I don’t want two names. I’d probably keep my maiden name while at my current employer, but I’m considering a career change so would make the switch then. It’s also probably going to be more work now, because my children’s birth certificates now don’t reflect my married name. Should I follow through on what I initially wanted or just accept my mistake and move on? – What’s A Name Worth?

It matters what that name is worth to you - an ideal or a definition, a history or a driving choice?

As a busy woman with three children and a career, you need to look at the practical considerations, too. Before you finally decide, consider all practical implications for your work life (confusing to your employer or work history?), and to your life with your children (once the passports are changed, it could actually make travel with them easier). As for your husband’s preference, how much does it matter to him, and why? It’s your personal decision; neither choice implies anything other than what’s most comfortable for you. Once you firm up your own feelings, bear your name proudly.