Husband’s Facebook looks raise red flags

My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. We’ve had our share of highs and lows during our time together. However, recently I discovered some things that are really bothering me.

My husband always said he didn’t “do the whole Facebook thing.” I discovered he’s been lying about not having an account when I was trying to set one up for him to receive some promotional offers. I then discovered that he was searching for old girlfriends, singles sites, pornography and other women on Facebook for two years behind my back.

Some of the women my husband was looking up on Facebook were our daughter’s age or even a couple of years younger. This is all very disturbing to me. When I try to discuss this with him, he gets extremely defensive and becomes angry with me. I am hurt and don’t believe that what he is doing is right. Feeling Very Broken

Dear Broken: The only one who should feel broken is your husband.

Though it’s definitely questionable that he’s been browsing (very) young women’s Facebook pages, there could at least plausibly be innocent explanations for that. You mentioned that he has been on singles sites and this could indicate infidelity.

Talk to him about marriage counselling. If he refuses, consider separation or divorce.

Dear Annie: My wife’s nephew and his wife, “Susie,” moved from Oregon to Pennsylvania last year for him to go to graduate school. Recently, there was a collectors show that I was going to about two hours from where they now live. I suggested to my wife that if she wanted to visit them, I could drop her off at their condo and then pick her up after the show before heading home.

At their condo, I saw Susie standing in the kitchen eating something from a bowl. My wife has a restricted diet, and as she was getting out her lunch fixings, she asked her nephew whether there was bread to make a sandwich.

After we got back home, my wife told me about Bob and Susie’s breaking out the chocolate ice cream after I had gone to bed Sunday night. (Ice cream is not part of my wife’s restricted diet.) I feel that their handling of food and meals was clueless, if not outright rude. I have no desire to subject myself to a repeat episode. Snubbed for Snacks

Dear Snubbed: If it didn’t bother your wife, the one with the food restrictions, I’m not sure why it bothered you. It’s her family and her diet restrictions. If she’s on a restricted diet, pack snacks and small meals of her own when travelling.

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