Wedding guests deserve consideration and care

Dear Annie: I recently attended a couple of weddings that left me baffled.

The custom of most weddings in the Midwest is for the wedding couple and their wedding party to hire a limo, party bus or some other method of transportation to take the entire group around to various bars after the wedding ceremony and before the reception. The guests are free to go to the reception site, and usually some type of refreshment is offered.

At one wedding, the couple didn’t even greet guests at the back of the church after the ceremony. They secluded themselves in another room and left their parents to greet and thank guests for coming, and then they made their exit with the usual fanfare and entered the party bus.

It was more than two hours before they made an entrance at the reception. Meanwhile, the guests were waiting for the couple to arrive before they were offered the reception meal. Some guests were elderly or had travelled a long distance and wanted to go home after the reception, so after two hours, they left without waiting for the couple.

Since another recent wedding, the bride has been selling unwanted wedding/ shower gifts on the Facebook Marketplace forum.

Are we wrong to feel our gifts were not appreciated?

Perhaps this is easier than returning unwanted items to the store, or maybe the couple only really wanted money, but with far-reaching social

media, I am sure some guests are seeing their gifts being sold before the thank-you cards are even sent. I realize the happy couple would like to celebrate with their friends, but shouldn’t consideration for their guests come first?

At least make an appearance early at the reception so guests can enjoy that time. And for goodness’ sake, have the grace to appreciate the effort guests have put into their gifts. Wedding Blues

Dear Wedding Blues: Selling wedding gifts on social media is tacky, plain and simple. I’d never heard of that before, and I hope to never hear of it again. Newlyweds, if you don’t want a gift, just return it.

As for the hours-long wait for the couple to make their entrance at the reception, I’ve noticed this trend.

I believe it’s because photographers can take more photos now than ever, and shoots are elaborate, with multiple locations and every possible combination of wedding party members.

I encourage anyone planning a wedding to take guests’ needs into account.

If there is going to be significant lag between the ceremony and the reception, make sure guests have somewhere to socialize and something to eat.