Montreal Gazette

Freeloadin­g boyfriend has become tiresome

- ABIGAIL VAN BUREN Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at

Dear Abby: I've been with the same guy for almost five years. I was madly in love with him the first three years, but after I had my daughter, things changed. We haven't been intimate in a while. I had some female issues I wanted to take care of, plus I'm not physically attracted to him anymore. He makes little comments about it to make me feel bad. He doesn't want to discuss anything, so talking to him is impossible.

We broke up a few months ago but got back together. He moved all his stuff out, so now he makes me feel guilty, telling me he has nothing and our house doesn't feel like his anymore. By the way, he doesn't pay for rent or household expenses like groceries. I pay for everything because he doesn't work. Yet I have to give him money for his gambling addiction. I don't want to be with him anymore. But the last time we broke up, he was terribly verbally abusive, and I don't want to go through that again. What should I do? Indecisive in Illinois

Dear Indecisive: Tell him you no longer want to be his sugar mama; he will have to find someone else to feed him and finance his gambling addiction. Do not do it while the two of you are alone. Make sure to have several friends or relatives with you for moral support and to help him collect whatever things he has at your place. If you do, it may curb his verbal abuse. After that, change the locks on your doors and do not admit him to the

house again. If he forces his way in, summon the police. If you don't rid yourself of him, he will suck you dry.

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