Fam­ily Legacy

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As a for­mer CTV sports­caster and colour com­men­ta­tor, Bob Huber was used to be­ing so­cial and in­de­pen­dent, but when the Regina res­i­dent lost his sight his world changed.

“When you lose your eye­sight, a cou­ple of things hap­pen. The first thing you no­tice is there are a num­ber of things you can’t do any­more. You im­me­di­ately feel like you have lost per­sonal free­dom and that is a huge ad­just­ment,” said the 64-yearold.

Bob lost his sight due to glau­coma surgery com­pli­ca­tions when he was 51 years old. Sud­denly, he was re­liant on oth­ers to drive him around, ev­ery­day tasks took longer, and he couldn’t do some tasks at all.

He felt iso­lated and didn’t know how to nav­i­gate the world any­more be­cause he wasn’t able to see. “I wanted to stay in my house and not ven­ture out. Feel­ing com­fort­able and safe at home, I didn’t want to ven­ture out into a world I was not fa­mil­iar with.” For a cou­ple of years, he ac­cepted that his life would be this way. “I found life un­ful­fill­ing, but I never gave it a sec­ond thought.”

It was dur­ing an ap­point­ment with his op­tometrist that he found out about CNIB. He be­gan learn­ing white cane skills, ac­cessed the in­de­pen­dent liv­ing skills pro­gram and learned tech­nol­ogy skills on his iPad. His world be­gan to get big­ger.

Huber was an avid reader be­fore he lost his sight but hadn’t been able to read since. “It was a big hole.” He was in­tro­duced to the talk­ing book pro­gram through the CELA li­brary ser­vices and his world be­gan to open even fur­ther.

Then he be­gan his in­volve­ment with the CNIB Peer Sup­port Group in Regina and found a wealth of knowl­edge on how to nav­i­gate the world. “This group is a lot of help for peo­ple like me who thought there was not a lot of help out there.” Learn­ing new skills to cope and dif­fer­ent ways of do­ing ev­ery­day tasks eased his frus­tra­tion with his vi­sion loss.

Most of all, be­cause of the ex­am­ples of oth­ers in this group, Bob no longer puts lim­its on what he can or can’t do. “Thanks to them I have more con­fi­dence when I leave my home and the world is not such a scary place any­more.”

CNIB is start­ing a Peer Group in Moose Jaw that will run the third Tues­day of each month start­ing on Septem­ber 18, 2018. CNIB needs a vol­un­teer to run the group.

A peer group vol­un­teer helps to fa­cil­i­tate meet­ings that are out­lined by CNIB and the par­tic­i­pants. The meet­ings are a place for the par­tic­i­pants to get in­for­ma­tion on dif­fer­ent top­ics that re­late to vi­sion loss. The vol­un­teer is re­spon­si­ble for mak­ing sure the group stays on task and work­ing with the CNIB staff per­son to get the meet­ing in­for­ma­tion and speak­ers.

The vol­un­teers do not need to have any ex­pe­ri­ence with vi­sion loss but it can be help­ful.

For more in­for­ma­tion about how to par­tic­i­pate in or vol­un­teer to lead the Moose Jaw Peer Group call Ash­ley at (306) 565-5413 or email: ash­ley. nemeth@cnib.ca. As I touched on last week, legacy is some­thing handed down from one gen­er­a­tion to the next. For those of you who took the time to re­flect and think on the fam­ily legacy you’re hand­ing down, how did you do? I ad­mit I have been more aware of what is im­por­tant for me to hand off to the next gen­er­a­tion and have made some ad­just­ments in our fam­ily. Deuteron­omy 6: 6 & 7 says, “These com­mand­ments that I give you to­day are to be on your hearts. Im­press them on your chil­dren. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as sym­bols on your hands and bind them on your fore­heads. Write them on the door­frames of your houses and on your gates.”

There are three steps we can take be­fore we de­ter­mine what it is that we should pass along. Step one is to know the non-ne­go­tiables. What are the val­ues and ways of life that you are solid on? Make a list. Se­condly, get on a jour­ney of know­ing “who you are.” In re­cent months, I’ve been shar­ing a bit of my iden­tity jour­ney. If we re­ally know who we are, we can live out our life more fully and ef­fec­tively. Third step is look around to see what prob­lem needs solved that can be solved. This is tied into who you are.

Ac­cord­ing to the Fo­cus on the Fam­ily web­site, there are three im­por­tant as­pects to build­ing a strong fam­ily legacy. Emo­tional, spir­i­tual and so­cial le­ga­cies all wrapped into one cre­ate a “three strand cord.” To­gether, when passed on, they are strong, pos­i­tive and ef­fec­tive. Even if we’ve had a hard, trau­matic or neg­a­tive past, we can change it around to be­come a strong, pos­i­tive force that will im­pact gen­er­a­tions to come! Look at all those in the Bible who had dif­fi­cult pasts but, with God’s help, changed their pre­sent which changed their fu­ture. An emo­tional legacy in­cludes a sense of se­cu­rity and sta­bil­ity. If drama is your way of life, be­gin to make small changes to cre­ate a sense of calm­ness and sta­ble state in your home. Start to con­sis­tently make your home a safe place where trust is built, se­cu­rity is of­fered and a pos­i­tive sense of well-be­ing is en­cour­aged. A so­cial legacy pro­vides op­por­tu­ni­ties to learn about re­lat­ing well to oth­ers; with dig­nity, re­spect, cour­tesy, and un­con­di­tional love.

A spir­i­tual legacy is much more than en­cour­ag­ing your chil­dren to go to church. Build­ing a strong spir­i­tual legacy is about walk­ing the talk, mak­ing God a part of your life ev­ery minute of ev­ery day. It is about re­in­forc­ing that God loves ev­ery­one. It is about in­cor­po­rat­ing spir­i­tual prin­ci­ples in the mun­dane, liv­ing by faith de­spite cir­cum­stances and de­vel­op­ing trust in the faith­ful­ness of God. It is about mak­ing Je­sus Lord over your fam­ily and fol­low­ing His Word, us­ing it as your fi­nal au­thor­ity in all as­pects of life. It is be­ing real and au­then­tic, liv­ing in an at­ti­tude of for­give­ness and ser­vant lead­er­ship. It may seem like this is a large bill to fill, how­ever Je­sus is the One who en­ables us to live this out. It is through His strength, wis­dom and grace we can aim to be like Him. If we want to af­fect to­mor­row, we must af­fect to­day. What­ever we do to­day will bring re­sults to­mor­row. Be­gin to make the changes nec­es­sary to leave a last­ing legacy; a her­itage our chil­dren and grand­chil­dren will be proud of and live out.

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