Assault and Battery
There is an assault on marriages today. Did you know it is the plan of the enemy to bring division and death to marriages resulting in separation, divorce, family breakdown, and domestic violence? A friend’s friend lost her life only days ago due to domestic violence. Another friend’s friend had a big fight resulting in extreme threats of unhealthy behavior towards her. This is going on in our homes and in our neighbors’ homes. Let’s not sweep this under the rug anymore, brothers and sisters!
Be honest with yourself: do you treat your spouse with the love of Jesus? Is your home full of peace or strife? Do you have constant fights, arguments, tension, sadness or unrest? If you are a follower of Jesus, it is time to take responsibility for what is going on in your home. For too long, we have put on a holy smile; gone to church and pretended all is well when everything is falling apart behind closed doors. Maybe you didn’t grow up with a godly example of a love-filled marriage and you don’t have the tools to make your marriage great. You may look around and not see many marriages that you could emulate to improve your relationship; or you may just think it’s not worth using your time and energy. But have you ever thought what the purpose of marriage is? Mistakenly, it is not just for the reproduction of the human race or a healthy and protected sex life. Satan knows the power behind a marriage that is unified, full of unconditional love and set on a course to follow Jesus. This is why he is determined to take as many marriages down as he can. It has been suggested in “A Purpose-Driven Marriage” article, that “...marriage is to be a human object lesson of the divine relationship between Christ and believers.” I often laugh about the fact that marriage is an institution created by God – not the fact that God created it but that it is certainly a place of education; sometimes also known as “The School of Hard Knocks.” The article also mentioned that marriage is a laboratory – a place where God’s love can be developed in us. “God builds certain qualities within our lives by putting us in situations that make it difficult to show these qualities. God is using each of you to shape the other person more and more into the image of Jesus.” Companionship, enjoyment, completeness, and protection are all valid purposes for marriage as is the exploration of Christ and His love for the Church similarly as the husband loves his wife. Paul Evdokimov, noted Orthodox theologian, suggests this about marriage: “...for their coming together has this effect, it diffuses and commingles the bodies of both. And as one who has cast ointment into oil, who has made the whole one, so in truth it is also here.’ ‘...Marriage is the intimate union of two lives, ‘‘the sacrament of love.’”
Marriage can be the most hurtful relationship to be in but on the converse, marriage can be the most rewarding relationship one can ever have. The design of marriage encourages deep connection and intimacy of two hearts intertwined; becoming one flesh. What an amazing molding together that is potentially brilliant when two live in love, unity and serve God and each other with all their hearts. Of all the bumps and bruises Hubby and I have lived through, I am increasingly thankful that we have each other and have persisted through very difficult times; there is nothing like growing older together.