Young cou­ple seem to click bet­ter when they’re apart

Moose Jaw Times Herald - - GO GUIDE - Abi­gail van Buren Dear Abby Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. When I’m with him, I of­ten find him an­noy­ing and think we have noth­ing in com­mon. But when we are apart, I miss him a lot — es­pe­cially when one of us trav­els for work.

When we’re apart and talk on the phone, we have amaz­ing con­ver­sa­tions and dis­cuss a fu­ture to­gether. But when we’re to­gether, we don’t talk as much, and he never men­tions a fu­ture to­gether.

I’m con­fused. Is this nor­mal for re­la­tion­ships? I don’t want to stay in a re­la­tion­ship that isn’t go­ing any­where, and it has been like this since pretty early on. How can I know if I should in­vest more of my time or if I should end it and move on? — PERPLEXED IN VIR­GINIA

DEAR PERPLEXED: If nei­ther of you is par­tic­u­larly talk­a­tive and there are a lot of dis­trac­tions when you are to­gether, then it’s nor­mal. When you are apart, it’s pos­si­ble that you miss — and ide­al­ize — each other, which is why those con­ver­sa­tions about a fu­ture hap­pen. The way to de­ter­mine whether you should in­vest more time in this re­la­tion­ship would be to ASK him, and just as plainly as you ad­dressed that ques­tion to me.

DEAR ABBY: Could you please print this on be­half of de­liv­ery peo­ple ev­ery­where? Folks: Please make sure your ad­dress is vis­i­ble from the street.

I can’t tell you how many times I have had to drive up and down a street try­ing to fig­ure out which house I’m sup­posed to de­liver to. Some­times, I can see the num­ber on the curb. But many times, it’s im­pos­si­ble to spot — and I de­liver dur­ing the day. I can only be­gin to imag­ine how hard it is for couri­ers who de­liver at night. So do us a fa­vor. Make sure your house num­ber is vis­i­ble from the street. —WENDY IN CAL­I­FOR­NIA

DEAR WENDY: I’m glad you wrote. Peo­ple in your pro­fes­sion are not the only ones who strug­gle with this prob­lem. I have also heard from fire and emer­gency per­son­nel com­plain­ing about the same is­sue when the sit­u­a­tion wasn’t just in­con­ve­nient, but life-threat­en­ing. Read­ers, please take a mo­ment to walk to the curb and see if your street ad­dress is vis­i­ble. Fix­ing the prob­lem could be as sim­ple as trim­ming some bushes.

DEAR ABBY: My hus­band and I have been ar­gu­ing over whether food must be cov­ered while it’s be­ing heated in the mi­crowave. I al­ways cover it be­cause it takes lit­tle ef­fort and pre­vents splat­ters. He re­fuses, un­less the food is very saucy or greasy. When I ask why he won’t do it, he has no an­swer.

It would be one thing if he rou­tinely cleaned the mi­crowave, but he never does, leav­ing me to do it. This has caused shout­ing matches be­tween us. How can we set­tle this, short of throw­ing away the mi­crowave? — UN­COV­ERED OUT WEST

DEAR UN­COV­ERED: Do not toss out a per­fectly good mi­crowave over this is­sue. Praise your hus­band when he cov­ers the saucy/greasy foods, and re­mem­ber to throw a pa­per towel over his din­ner when he “for­gets.”

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