FILLING THE GAP
WHEN I COACH WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING TO TAKE A SABBATICAL, THE MAIN THING THEY’RE LOOKING FOR IS PERMISSION … A LOT OF US AREN’T OPEN TO POSSIBILITIES WE HAVEN’T BEEN SHOWN BEFORE. — ROSHIDA DOWE, CAREER-BREAK COACH BREAKING FROM ROUTINE WITH A MINI SABBAT
If you daydream about getting a break from stress, you might picture a restful week of vacation or a long weekend away. But some people opt for something bigger, finding ways to take longer or more varied time away from the routine.
Mini sabbaticals. Adult gap years. Or just gap months. The extended breaks range from quitting a job to taking a leave to just working remotely somewhere new to experience a different lifestyle. It’s about stepping out of the expected and recharging.
That’s not entirely new, of course, but the pandemic’s upheaval of work life caused more people to question whether they really wanted to work the way they had.
Barry Kluczyk, a public relations professional who lives in suburban Detroit, had long wanted to spend more time in Seattle. But it wasn’t until COVID pushed him to fully remote work that he felt able to spend a month there, along with his wife and daughter.
“I wish we could have done it sooner,” he said.
The Kluczyks liked it so much they went the opposite direction in 2022 for another mini sabbatical, in Portland, Maine.
More companies are offering breaks as a low-cost way to address employee exhaustion, said Kira Schrabram, assistant professor of management and organization at the University of Washington. She is among leaders of the Sabbatical Project, which aims to create “a more humane relationship with work” by encouraging extended leaves.
“Companies are starting to realize burnout is an issue,” she said.
American attitudes toward taking time off are very different from European ones, which tend to put more value on vacation time and rest, said Schrabram, who is German.
Roshida Dowe took advantage of the time she had when she got laid off. She wanted a break before looking for her next position, and was struck by how many people asked how she could take time away to travel. So she decided to hang out her shingle as a career-break coach.
Dowe partnered with Stephanie Perry to launch Exodus Summit, a virtual conference and community for Black women “interested in developing your Location Freedom, Financial Freedom and/or Time Freedom plan.” They bring in experts to talk about practical issues surrounding extended travel, such as finances, safety and health care, and more philosophical topics like the value of rest and breaking free of intergenerational trauma.
“When I coach women who are looking to take a sabbatical, the main thing they’re looking for is permission,” said Dowe, who moved to Mexico City as part of her reinvention.
She said it’s powerful to showcase women taking extended travel because, “A lot of us aren’t open to possibilities we haven’t been shown before.”
Perry experienced that herself when she took a vacation to Brazil in 2014 and met people staying in her hostel who were travelling for months, not days.
“I thought for sure people who travelled long term were all trust fund babies,” Perry said. She researched budget travel and found people making it work on $40 a day.
Cost is a common obstacle for people considering a break. There are creative ways around that, Perry said.
“House-sitting is the reason I can work very little and travel a lot,” she said. She teaches an online class for travellers interested in getting started as a housesitter.
Alternatively, websites like Homeexchange, Homelink and Holiday Swap connect travellers who would like to trade homes.
Ashley Graham took a break from her work at a non-profit in Washington, D.C., and planned a road trip
through the South. She visited friends along the way who could give her a free place to stay.
“It was a great way to connect with my past life,” said Graham, who subsequently relocated to New Orleans after loving the city during her sabbatical tour.
Eric Rewitzer and Annie Galvin put two employees in charge of their 3 Fish Studios art gallery in San Francisco to spend the summer in France and Ireland.
“It was terrifying,” said Rewitzer, who described himself as having been a workaholic and control freak. “It was a huge exercise in trust.”
When they returned to San Francisco, Rewitzer saw his hometown differently. He felt his life had been out of balance, too much work and too little time in nature.
That shift in perspective led the couple to buy what they thought would be a weekend home in the Sierra Nevada mountains. It turned into their full-time home when they shut down their gallery during the pandemic. Now they’re considering getting a studio space in San Francisco again.
“It all comes back to that same place of being willing to take chances,” Rewitzer said.