LET’S TALK DIVORCE
With the divorce rate close to 50%, almost everyone has heard of someone getting separated. While it seems to be the new norm in the last decade, for the most part, the family law process, structure and principles have not changed in over thirty years. This pre-dates cell phones, bank machines and email. Rather shocking to say the least.
Let’s start with this - divorce is not a one size fits all approach. It is unique to each individual, to their dynamic, family structure and communication style. How a colleague, friend or family member resolved their agreement does not necessarily apply to another. This is where the conflict and confusion can set in. Then the fear. And finally, the feeling of being frozen and not sure what to do next.
So how does one navigate a system that is not only rigid and cumbersome but complicated to understand? Frankly, up to now, not very easily and it has cost many people a lot of money trying to figure it out. The good news is, there are fast becoming options to assist in these unknown waters.
Here is one option to consider, what if both parties knew the same information at the same time? In other words, learn together with a professional how they may start to resolve their issues such as parenting arrangements, support obligations and dividing assets and liabilities. This can stabilize conflict when both parties know what is to come and how things may take shape moving forward.
This process is commonly known as Mediation which is an efficient and cost effective process allowing individuals to voice their interests, goals and concerns together with a neutral third party. The Mediator will foster an interest-based discussion and ensure each party’s thoughts are heard while skillfully narrowing the issues and guiding the couple towards resolution.
Divorce is frightening and devastating to many. It is important to know that there are options to consider that can ease the emotions. If the right process is chosen for each unique circumstance, the result will be a far more stable, cost effective and efficient resolution.
Diane Horsman BIO Diane Horsman, Consultant and Founder of Bold Consulting, is a single mother of two teenagers. She is a trained Mediator and obtained her Alternative Dispute Resolution certificate from York University. Diane specializes in, but is not limited to, Separations with conflict and is committed to helping couples and individuals feel empowered and confident through the challenging Divorce process.