Woman wants a committed mate
Dear Abby: I am a divorced woman in my mid-40s. I started dating again about two years ago, and shortly after, I met “Jed.”
He is someone I’d love to spend the rest of my life with. We have been seeing each other for more than a year, and I’d like some sort of commitment. I have tried talking to him about it. All he’ll say is, “We’re committed and monogamous and that’s enough, so don’t start with me.”
We spend Thursday through Sunday together. Jed says Monday through Wednesday is his time to be alone. We don’t talk or see each other during that time. We may email or text, but I’m not allowed to go to his house or call him.
I’m financially stable but would have a better lifestyle if I could share the bills with someone. Time’s A-Wastin’ In Georgia
Dear Time’s A-Wastin’: Do you realize that not once in your letter did you mention anything POSITIVE Jed does for you?
He has told you directly that this is as committed as he’s willing to get. Men who “love” women don’t forbid them from coming to their home or calling; in fact, they WELCOME them. Jed doesn’t say “I love you” unless he is cornered because it appears he DOESN’T love you. Yes, you’re wasting your time. If you want someone to share living expenses so you can enjoy a better lifestyle, find yourself a roommate.
Dear Abby: I have been married for 29 years and I’m having concerns about my husband. For many years he has shaved his underarms, legs, etc., to the point that he is completely hairless. He recently lost some weight and is joining a gym. He wears women’s stretch tights and a girdle to work out. A Little Worried In Wisconsin
Dear Worried: These days some men wax, shave, moisturize and exfoliate their bodies. Your husband may wear tights at the gym because he looks around and sees younger men with sleeker physiques and he’s self-conscious about his own. Because some of this is a recent change in your husband’s behaviour, you deserve an explanation.