Am I too tough on boyfriend?

Q I’m 28, living together with my boyfriend for four years.

I don’t feel we’ve made much growth.

Or that we belong together anymore.

I’ve worked hard to get where I am — renting an apartment, job benefits, car paid off, fully independent, great family and friends.

He doesn’t have similar drive and depends on me a lot.

He’s worked here and there but his background and constant tardiness made it hard to get a good-paying job.

He states that once he’s finished school and the pardon passes, he’ll have more opportunities.

We lack communication, rarely spend time together anymore. Dealing with our issues just doesn’t interest me any more.

I feel like I’m being taking advantage of, as he’s become a recent student and I’m working full-time making ends meet.

I support him bettering himself, but don’t understand his not working many hours during summer months to bank cash for school and bills.

I’m second-guessing my future if I stay, and whether I’ll be able to obtain the things I want most — a house, comfort, support, kids.

If I try to discuss it, he takes it as an attack and is defensive.

I do love him and he has wonderful qualities.

Am I being too hard on him or do I need to move on? Feeling Used and Disrespected

A You’re done with the relationship as it currently exists.

Now check your legal responsibilities in case you’re considered a common-law couple in your jurisdiction.

That’d make you responsible for some of his needs, since you’re the greater earner.

Either way, you must insist that he works part-time during school terms and full-time in summer to pay part of his share. He’s had an easy ride while you’ve carried the load.

If he doesn’t pitch in financially, you may have to insist he leaves and work out some legal arrangement if necessary, whereby you help him get by till he finishes school.