Beau’s flirty classmate will join him for a semester in France

Q I’m 25, and my boyfriend of five years is going on a master’s program exchange to France for a semester next year.

But I’ve learned that an extremely flirtatious single classmate would also be on the same program.

When they met a year ago, she was very flirty with him and would constantly text/Facebook message him.

She was also flirty in person, and my intuition told me she liked him — but she was also always very nice to me.

I’ve never before been worried or jealous about another female, but this one made me anxious.

My boyfriend apologized that it upset me, assured me that she was harmless and that she knew how seriously committed we are.

But recently at a party, she was just as flirtatious as before, in front of me, and more so behind my back.

I confronted my boyfriend again, and this time he acknowledged that she’s still flirtatious, but he’s tried to be short with her and not give her any ideas.

We both agreed that because of how stressed/anxious it makes me, something needs to be done. We just can’t figure out the best way to solve it.

I suggested he explain to her that the flirting’s inappropriate. But he’s extremely modest and is afraid he’ll come off as cocky and that she’ll deny ever flirting.

I don’t want to create an awkward situation for him, but I really need this to stop.

Should I confront her about it? Is this something that should only be done in person?

Anxious and Stuck

A Any remarks from either of you must be made in person. Emails or texts can be used to make either or both of you appear very foolish and blow this personal matter open — something she might like.

Modest or not, he must speak up and say that she’s too flirty with him and he’s committed to you and wants her to stop. Then, any social media contact from her to him should go unanswered.

Meanwhile, keep up your close and supportive contact with him, and if possible make plans to visit.