Will she ever show affection?

Q I’m 82 and dating again. Widowed five years ago, I was so lonely I went on a senior dating site after a year of grieving.

A wonderful woman and I hit it off after the first date, seeing each other regularly for nearly four years. We’ve travelled together, and get along so well.

She established that this is strictly friendship, I agreed. I thought she’d eventually change her mind, but she won’t even share a bed together. We have to get twin beds when travelling.

I’d just love to cuddle; at my age it’s probably all I could do.

I treat her so well, buy her gifts, cook her meals, pick up the tabs when we go out. But she’s very independent and won’t sleep together.

All her family love me and must wonder why she doesn’t show me more love. When I kiss her, she keeps her lips tightly together.

Should I try and find someone else who’ll show me some love and affection? I really do like her and would miss her very much. — No Affection A You’re in a modern situation with an old-fashioned woman. She wants your company, expects you to pay the way, yet sticks to her “friends-only” deal.

The only thing that might make her re-consider, could be the prospect of losing such an attentive partner.

It’s a gamble you’d have to be willing to take, which may be difficult. Weigh your options.