BOYFRIEND HAS EXPLAINING TO DO AFTER CHEATING

Q My boyfriend cheated on me a week ago. He said it wasn’t planned.

He took this girl to a hotel room. He said that they both got naked, but he just couldn’t go through with it. I don’t know what to believe. He’s been trying to get back together and says the experience opened his eyes — he doesn’t want other girls or the single life.

I moved out of my place where I was living with him and want to go back, but I’m scared it’ll be to broken promises.

I believe the relationship’s worth saving. What should I do? Still a Cheater?

A If it’s your place, he moves out now. You both need a break.

It’s too easy to accept his story that he didn’t want to cheat and never will again.

Yet he did meet up with another woman, he did check into a hotel room and he did get naked with her.

So whether it was guilt or booze or limpness that made him stop, he stepped away from your relationship.

Now you need to step back long enough to find out why?

His wanting you back isn’t enough. He must explain what was in his mind leading up to that night, about wanting “other girls and the single life.”

What does he see for your future together? Have you shared long-term plans?

He started this discussion through his straying and you need answers.

Also, ask yourself some hard questions: have you been accepting less than what you want from him to not rock the boat? Have you avoided asking for a commitment rather than scare him away?

This is a turning point for your relationship — whether to improve it or end it.

You may also need counselling together to come up with the answers.